Re: Rise in Divorce rates
Can you please clarify what you mean by free mixing? I agree with your second sentence to a degree. Yes the change in gender roles causes an imbalance in family life. However, the change usually occurs when a man will marry a woman who has a greater earning potential than him (e.g doctor vs. office clerk). I personally think it’s more about the man’s inability to put his pride aside and accept that his wife is the bread winner.
Totally agree with you there. Unfortunately, often arrange marriages are a pot luck sort of situation. I’m glad you were able to get out of your predicament before too much time passed. InshAllah all your future relationship endeavours are more fruitful.
I’m glad you added the little bit at the end in the brackets.
Is it a bad thing divorce rates have increased? Absolutely.
Divorce not only puts a lot of pressure on the two individuals involved, but it’s affects both families. It is sad to see that the girl’s family tends to suffer more when it comes time to look for new suitors.
My question isn’t about whether or not you should stay in a crappy relationship or pull the plug and divorce. It’s more about causality.
Yes, nowadays people don’t need to stay in crappy marriages. I just think there are circumstances that can be worked in but people throw their hands up a little to quickly and say “nah screw this. im out.”
I suppose what I’m trying to say is the institution of marriage is not as sacred or treasured as it once was. Rather than taking the option of divorce completely off the table, forcing two individuals to solve their issues; divorce is one the things that instantly springs to people’s mind when it comes to conflict resolution. Or rather, lack of a resolution.
This is quite an unfair statement. Do you have any own personal experiences that showcase this? Or are you just going from sunni sunai baat that usually floats around about western Pakistanis.
I’m living abroad and I was engaged to be married back in Pakistan to a girl. I was accommodating to all of her needs, but she was very bad when it came to compromises. Despite being from a middle class family, her attitude was that of a spoilt brat you’d find kicking and screaming because they didn’t get sprinkles on their ice cream.
She was far less compromising than girls I have met who were born and raised in the west. Oh and she was older too. Wouldn’t it be fair to say you’d expect some level of maturity? But you don’t see me using this case to drag through the mud all girls that were born and raised in Pakistan in middle class families.