Re: Rights of parents
"Such issues are more common in muslim men"
May be because they are more in numbers. My husband is a muslim and he never took my money for any purpose but he helps my family with his own money.
Her husband cannot stop her from serving her sick parents nor she should wait for her husband's permission.
Hareem you are very right but believe me in reality its not what a wife can actually do. Not an easy decision for her at all. Specially when there are kids too. If her husband tells her not to go without his permission that poor soul is not going to do with a fear that this might destroy her family life. And this is same what she gets to listen from her parents too.. like dont come if he doesnt like it. I wonder though why wife is so concerned about saving her family when her husband is playing all blind and deaf to it.
Its not always Mullah Husbands. The one i know of are British and American Nationality holders and so called highly educated foreign degree holders. They hardly say their daily prayers regularly.
Actually NJMasti has suggested a very good solution. But that should be done by some Hired Ghunday and not by the wife herself :D
Hareem you are very right but believe me in reality its not what a wife can actually do. Not an easy decision for her at all. Specially when there are kids too. If her husband tells her not to go without his permission that poor soul is not going to do with a fear that this might destroy her family life. And this is same what she gets to listen from her parents too.. like dont come if he doesnt like it. I wonder though why wife is so concerned about saving her family when her husband is playing all blind and deaf to it.
Its not always Mullah Husbands. The one i know of are British and American Nationality holders and so called highly educated foreign degree holders. They hardly say their daily prayers regularly.
Actually NJMasti has suggested a very good solution. But that should be done by some Hired Ghunday and not by the wife herself :D
^lol @ hired ghunday.
that's quite sad....in both cases, mullah and non-mullah husbands, it is their lack of religious knowledge or wrong understanding of religious knowledge and most of all their goodness of chracter.
Ya Rabbi..... just one night and this thread covered such long roads. It is the duty of every person to take care of parents irrespective whether the offspring is male or female. you people made wrong interpretations of the hadiths which i quoted. But before giving my explaination i will quote few more hadith for your satisfaction.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 278 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: ‘The most perfect Muslim in the matter of faith is one who has excellent behaviour; and the best among you are those who behave best towards their wives.’
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3358 Narrated by AbuBakr as-Siddiq **
**The Prophet (saws) said, "One who treats badly those under his authority will not enter Paradise."
Now the relation of a husband and wife is based on understanding, co-operation, love n effection and much more. If we take the case of niksik's friend i think she can cooperate with her husband for time being ( siblings are with parents...right!!) and then convince him. Temper or frustation may be for a limited period but I dont think any believing or god fearing man is so stone hearted that he can stop a women when her parents are in need of her. Iam sure inshallah sweet words will melt hearts.
If a husband is so stubburn,cunning, selfish , irresponsible and quarrelsome, intentionally troubles you and is stopping you for issues which women really hates then Allah(swt) gave us a last option i.e 'divorce'.
Some one please correct me ..... I dont remember that name and not able to recollect whether this story is related to a companion of Prophet(saws) or tabba'ain. A women was not able to visit her sick father because she didnot get permission from her husband since he was away for jihad. After few days she was informed that her father passed away but still she doesnot leave her home in absense of her husband's permission. Later she dreams that her father has been forgiven just because of her deed. SubhanAllah!!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 3465 Narrated by Abdullah ibn Amr ibn al-'As
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘The whole world is a provision, and the best object of benefit of the world is the pious woman.’
Allah knows best!
Re: Rights of parents
To add a little bit masala to the topic, what if the husband's parents are also not keeping well and this guy is the only son. Nobody in their right mind would prevent their wife from taking care of her parnts but we would have to understand the whole situation before we can make any judgements on that person.
To add a little bit masala to the topic, what if the husband's parents are also not keeping well and this guy is the only son. Nobody in their right mind would prevent their wife from taking care of her parnts but we would have to understand the whole situation before we can make any judgements on that person.
if both parents are sick, Son can take care of his parents and wife can take care of her parents. simple.
Husband and wife can both keep a balance between both parents. its all about co-operation and being really interested to sort out the issue. There is no problem that has no solution.
if both parents are sick, Son can take care of his parents and wife can take care of her parents. simple.
Husband and wife can both keep a balance between both parents. its all about co-operation and being really interested to sort out the issue. There is no problem that has no solution.
Very well put.