Rights n duties of a wife

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i got married a few months ago n i dont know the complete rights n duties as being a wife. also i need to know the rights n duties of a husband

Also i need to know for long a husband n wife can stay outta touch if they have quarelled or the husband is busy or some other reason

PLz tell me that how often a couple is supposed to have a sex ? ( i read sumthing like the marriage ends if they donnot communserate sp?) what if they live in different countries and waht does religion say in case of nikkah ( no rukhsati situation)

and the last thing i need to know is about divorce-- if a wife tells a husband dat shes not happy with his behaviour( minor things like no regular communication , not spending time with wife, saying things dat hurt wifes feelings) n he keeps ignoring it n makes no effort to improve it, can she ask for divorce ? and most important of all will she be answerable to Allah n her hubby ? is it unjust for the hubby in any way ???

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^^ Just do whatever your husband tells you to do.

Never ever Question his authority. You are his slave for life.

If its night time and he says its daytime, then you must agree with him.

If he says the world is flat, then you must agree with him.

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http://www.4shared.com/file/16317670/936f3e03/A_Gift_of_Husband_and_Wife.html

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Impressive guiding spirit …Jazakallah Khanbaba bhai

Don't throw a baby in the air else .....
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I'd like some answers to these questions also - succint answers, not links with long information that could be from a fitnati website.

I do know there is no specific frequency for sex. He cannot force himself on you, even within a marriage.

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First off, rukhsati is NOT RECOGNIZED from an Islamic point of view... I would go as far as calling it a PAGAN custom! Once you are in legal marital contract (Nikah) you are legally wedded and no person can come between the couple unless they themselves wish to stay apart.

As for sex:

2:222 They ask you about women’s courses. Say, “It is an inconvenient condition. So keep away from intimacy during their courses. Once they are clear past it, you may approach your wives for intimate relations in the manner designed by Allah. Allah loves those who make amends and keep their minds and conduct clean.”

Forcing onself onto his wife is hardly a clean conduct.

Divorce and Force:

4:19 O You who have chosen to be graced with belief! It is not lawful for you to force women into marrying or holding on to them in marriage against their will. Pressuring women to remain in wedlock by threatening to take away the marital gift is forbidden. A wife could forfeit the right to the marital gift only if she has indulged in clear lewdness. You shall treat your wives nicely. Even if you dislike them, it may happen that Allah has placed much good in what you have failed to realize.

4:128 If a woman experiences ill-treatment from her husband or fears that he might turn away from her, there should be no hesitation in taking corrective action and resolving the matter between them amicably. Conciliation is best. Selfishness is ever present in human psyche. And if you take care to benefit each other and be mindful of Allah, verily Allah is ever Aware of all you do.

And the one thing I would like to bring up is:

65:1 O Prophet! When you men intend to divorce women, make sure that the waiting period is observed. Keep precise account of this interim. Be mindful of Allah, your Lord. Never expel them from THEIR homes, nor shall they themselves leave their homes unless they commit open immorality. These are, then, the limits imposed by Allah. And whoever crosses Allah's limits, he verily hurts his own ‘Self’. You know not that Allah may bring about thereafter a new situation (help create reconciliation).

So much for divorce by repeating something three times all at once...

As long as you are keeping the restrictions in mind, the details are left to you...

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Ouch!

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I don't remember the hadees reference which goes like if a man seeks to have sex with his women on the back of the camel, she can't say no. Yikes.

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That's gross.

Share ur eyez pics!
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The camel was, what a car is today - a mode of transportation.

Its not unheard of having sex in a car?

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why would they have sex on a camel?:confused:

cant they pitch a tent in the desert and do it there?:smiley:

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A car has a flat backseat. A camel has humps.

A car can't hear you - a camel can.

Really now.

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From what I remember, this saying is from Imam Ghazaali's book and it is Gazaali's saying and not a hadith. Whoever called it a hadith should go back and verify before declarartion because I find it very irresponsible to attribute something like this to the Prophet.

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I thought I read it as a hadees on GS itself but maybe I am wrong. Reporting as a hadees does not really means that the prophet has said it as well, thats why you have strong, weak and fake hadees.

OK if this Ghazaali dude has said this I can hardly take him serious.