1..... please don't seek any advices from aunties , khalas , chachis etc etc, they only add fuel to the fire
2..... the whole married life is not as glamorous as the wedding day party/ event .........so be realistic
3..... in laws could never be yr real parents , so need to be more careful in fulfuling yr duties , more patient , more careful while choosing the words u say , and try giving more instead of expecting more.
4.... just like world is full of both good parents and bad ones ( yeah and parents say the same about kids) same is with in laws
5.... now the complaining part , i only makes yr own life miserable
6.... misunderstandings , distances & diffrences mostly arise due to lack of communication , so speak up
7.... try to share yr thoughts and yr experiences with yr husband and got to know what his point of view is , esp before making any drastic decision
8..... in vulnerable situations , support yr husband
9 .... don't forget that at the end of the day u'll be a MIL yrself ( yeah i mean what goes around comes around)
10....not sure about what to say ?? in serious situations like monter in laws ?, money matters ?, sharing the kitchen matter?