Re: Right to choose .
I’m like that too…shallow…i had to be attracted to the guy physically, mentally and emotionally to consider him for marriage too…
but this is how i justify it...if i’m not attracted to him, i’m not doing him a favor by marrying him (i’ll be unhappy and he’ll be unhappy)…who knows if i let him go he’ll find a much sweeter and nicer grl that can look past his physical attributes and fall in love with his personality? and therefore she deserves and they would make each other much happy…
trust me its really difficult to force urself to be attracted to someone (i mean it CAN be done…u can always find a couple of things u like vs. dislike abt someone)
and grls start feeling shallow right away when they judge a guy based on looks while guys do it the other way arnd all the time..err so if for whatever reason u dont see urself with him then dont go for it…i think there’s always an instinct (**the right time, attraction or whatever..that tells u the right person has come along) **
I think the right person did come along but she missed out on the opportunity due to feeling pressurized.Most likely 'cuz of the hard sell by the family-no disrespect to 'em.