So we all know that DIL has the right to have her own place…but in our society if the bahoo wants to live separately she is considered evil the one who is taking away MIL’s son…well being a mother I realize the point and I would’nt want to snatch away a mother’s son but what to do when no one is happy living together…there are loads of perks of living together I come to work leaving my kids behind not worrying about house chores …food…or cleaning but mental peace is not there…I dread going home… I go home just for the sake of kids …ppl tell me to ignore her and live my life but I can’t …I care for her…but her silent treatment is a torture…my relation with my husband is getting disturbed too…he is the only son…and the only man in our house …if i ask for a separate home would it be a bad decision?
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In a situation like yours where your husband is the only son and only man in the house, separate portions in one house would be ideal.
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My belief is that you lie in the bed you made and everyone should pay the price for their actions. If the MIL behaving badly then she is deserving of the consequences she gets. My wifes sister is a widow and not a very nice person, we had her in our house for years but all the dramas and bad behavior got to me, first we tried to get her a roommate but she was abusive towards the roommate and said she is a Kaamwalli etc. She does not have a single friend because of her behavior and would throw guilt trips on my wife about her loneliness and I told my wife that if she is rude and unsociable why should this be our problem.
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I think a duplex or something of that sort would be best where there is closeness yet some privacy as well. Its a relief for both parties, not just you. My parents visit their kids a lot but they enjoy their own space and privacy a lot. They don’t feel comfortable with extended stays at all.
It might sting a bit in the beginning but its better for all if there is some separation.
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[FONT=Times New Roman]Why is she giving silent treatment? Is it due to some of herown issues or maybe bad experiences in past? What are the views of your husbandon the MIL’s behaviour
[FONT=Times New Roman]You have right to separate place or duplex. But if it doesn’thappen you should try to find a way toreach a compromise with the MIL. I know its hard and not fair on you but it’sthe only way to have piece of mind. Maybe find out her interests and try to seeif you can be part of it.
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