If your partner was going through some hardship in life, wasn’t able to concentrate on the family, went into the depression mode, wasn’t his/her old self, would it create a rift between you two?
I’ve seen this happen an odd few times in real life but quite often in the movies. 
And I don’t understand why the other partner acts so omg-things-aren’t-working-out-between-us knowing that his other half is going through some tough times and needs his/her family the most at this stage.
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i'm going through hard times since my parents' death and sadly i just can't get over it even after having a lovely family of my own, call me ungrateful or whatever but i'm trying my hard to catch up with life. my husband is being supportive most of the time but I don't blame him if sometimes he can't carry on supporting me and dealing with me.
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People are SELFISH.....
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I’m sorry for your loss. 
God bless Psyah bhai!
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i don’t know if i answered your question bbc? 
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hmmm no you just gave me an example of how most couples are able to get on with each other even during hard times... I'm talking about the minority here... I guess they're just the immature bunch... there, I answered my own question! :D
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Ive met one couple who divorced because the wife had 7 miscarriages and had slipped into depression. I think its hard for both parties and of course need each other's support.
I think its a lot more than selfishness. I am not sure what they went through but I will say its important for both to try for each other's sake. I know sometimes we cannot help things and I am sure its much easier said than done...but trying is important.
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Because to support your partner in such a huge way, when you have no support from them is NOT EASY. I don’t think that warrants breaking up. We should, however, recognize that it is not easy and try to get as much outside support as we need, while trying to be strong.
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I understand the importance of supporting your partner.....and some things....such as in the example of the miscarriages mentioned above by Reha....can't be controlled.
But there are cases where a spouse's behavior is so hurtful that one decides that they're sick of giving chances....it's only getting worse and is hurting others in the family....and enough is enough. Again, it depends upon the situation....and we can't really judge unless we've been in their shoes.
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It would definitely create a rift. And to pass through those hard times the other partner has to sacrifice A LOT to keep peace and until things get back to normal.
But sometimes things never go back to normal, which could possibly lead to a separation.
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Yup ^
Support is important and in the example I gave...both husband and wife were invested in having children. Granted the wife had to bear the trauma but the husband also went through his share of issues with the loss of his child 7 times. Its not easy on either one.
All I am saying is both should try for each other's sake.
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I'm talking about the minority here... I guess they're just the immature bunch... there, I answered my own question!
While this may apply to some people, there are cases where someone has chronic or recurrent depression and not doing anything about it except let the period pass through temporarily only for it to hit back again. Sometimes depression goes away when the problem causing it is taken care of, but other times if it's something serious such as losing a loved one etc., then a lot more time and in some cases even seeking medical help is needed.
If two people are emotionally connected and are a couple and one of them is feeling down, the other is bound to get affected by it. They just have a different way of coping with it because it's not easy seeing your partner go through something like that. I'm not saying the other should throw tantrum fits but If the former isn't doing anything about it and isn't cooperative, it'll eventually negatively affect the other person involved.