if thats the case, then its even more sad to hear this from a person who served in that area and still holds such kind of thoughts.
you should replace Indian Controld Kashmir with Indian Occupied Kashmir, because there is a clear difference in simply “controlling” a place, and controlling an illegally occupied area.
I’ve relatives, and many close friends from Kashmir, they all have their families/ extended families in Indian Occupied Kashmir, and none of them is happy with indian army “controlling” them, instead they would happily join Pakistan.
and by no means Pak Army in AJK is equal (in numbers) to indian army in Indian Occupied Kashmir as you mentioned in your post above.
Indian’s economy and agriculture does not rely on Kashmir, while Pakistan’s economy and agriculture does
there is a loooooong list why Pakistan cannot stop worrying about Kashmir as you wish.