Okay so after reading the current threads on husband’s responsibility or wife’s right to husband earnings etc, another question pops up into my mind that a man other than responsible to provide for the wife and the kids, is he also responsible to provide for his parents and siblings or grandparents?
i have seen in our culture that men also provide and spend on their parents but what i want to know that is it an obligation on men or its only a cultural thing. because i have also seen some girls complaining that their husbands are spending on parents or on siblings education etc.
i personally know of a girl who complains that they can’t go to a vacation because they are not left with enough savings after all the house expenses of his parents are taken care of by the husband. the parents live in separate house but all expenses are met by the son and he also has to marry off one younger sister. so in case like or other cases are sisters, brothers, parents have a right to use the son’s money on their expenses or it is only the right of the wife and kids.
It's kind of hard question. He's family has been with him all along so he can't just dump them but then there is his wife(you) and the kids. Just cut him in half.
I'm assuming you mean from the Islamic perspective. I'm not sure what the technical answer is here. It would be good to find out. However, in terms of what to spend on the wife, I know it has to do with basic needs, The husband is not technically responsible for providing her with luxuries. He should however provide for her based on his status/standard, not hers. For instance, if she's grown up in a rich family and is used to luxuries but his means are not to that level, she can't expect to keep up the same standard. On the other hand, if the husband is from a more wealthy background and the wife is from a less wealthy one, then he should provide her according to his standard and not what she was used to prior to marriage.
-only parents are the responsibility of the ALL the male children ordained by Allah.
-taking care of siblings is shari'a wise NOT the responsibility of siblings but helping them with whatever you can is Husn-e-sulook and a charity and that's why Islam allows to give zakaat to your siblings, even without telling them
-Islam encourages everyone to treat everyone else with kindness and love, especially those related by blood which includes extended family..."charity starts at home"
Parents rights and their rutba defined by Islam and prophet (saw) is so Much so that it becomes irrlevent if its farz or not but just to answer your question:
Yes Islamically parents (and only) parents are the responsibility.
While, it is good and likeable if u can also help siblings in need but its not farz.
Can someone please give me the exact reference from the Quran or hadeeth that says taking care of parents financially is the son's responsibility? As far as I've been told, islamically, a man must take care of his wife and kids FIRST, meaning they are his first priority. I get that it is a good deed to do it an all, but I want to know where it says that a man MUST do this. Also, I've seen all too many threads on here where a girl is complaining that her hubby sends all his money to parents or has to fully support his parents and his siblings so there is not much money left for her and their kids (I've seen this scenario more than once on here). My question is, isn't that islamically WRONG for parents to use up all their son's money, especially if they have their own money (savings) or are still working? Am I the only one that sees something seriously wrong with this? The attitude of most people on here (wives included) seems to be that its totally ok for husband to spend a considerable amount on his parents (even if they may not necessarily be needy). I am not against helping parents....but I don't think it should be done until they are at the point where they absolutely NEED the financial assistance. As long as they can handle themselves....they should. We have our lives to live and children to support as well. This will be my attitude when I am elderly as well. I don't want to burden my kids...unless I have NO choice.
My husbands' family got screwed over when his father decided to support my hubby's chacha, chachi, and 3 cousins when they freshly arrived from Pak. My FIL supported these 5 extra relatives for almost 2 years, paying for their housing, food, clothes and everything. Guess what? Hubby's chacha never paid my FIL back after he got on his own two feet and they were able to buy a house before my FIL because my FIL lost most of his savings trying to support his own family and his brother's family for 2 years. My poor MIL had no say in the matter, although off course she is not happy with what happened. Moral of the story? Paki men need to stop thinking they are superman and supporting all their siblings. Those siblings need to take responsibility for themselves.
Can someone please give me the exact reference from the Quran or hadeeth that says taking care of parents financially is the son's responsibility? As far as I've been told, islamically, a man must take care of his wife and kids FIRST, meaning they are his first priority. I get that it is a good deed to do it an all, but I want to know where it says that a man MUST do this. Also, I've seen all too many threads on here where a girl is complaining that her hubby sends all his money to parents or has to fully support his parents and his siblings so there is not much money left for her and their kids (I've seen this scenario more than once on here). My question is, isn't that islamically WRONG for parents to use up all their son's money, especially if they have their own money (savings) or are still working? Am I the only one that sees something seriously wrong with this? The attitude of most people on here (wives included) seems to be that its totally ok for husband to spend a considerable amount on his parents (even if they may not necessarily be needy). I am not against helping parents....but I don't think it should be done until they are at the point where they absolutely NEED the financial assistance. As long as they can handle themselves....they should. We have our lives to live and children to support as well. This will be my attitude when I am elderly as well. I don't want to burden my kids...unless I have NO choice.
i remember reading it in some islamic books which says something like this " A man is made "Kafeel" for his family" & "Man is the breadwinner" & that earning and providing for the family is an obligation on man but not woman.
now who and who comes under the definition of a family i am not sure.
however, as reference to hadeeth saying taking care of parents financially is he son's responsibility, there are multiple hadeeths that says about parents right on children and that how children should respect them and do not say even Uff to them in any case and to take care of them, so i think it automatically covers all the aspects of care i.e financially, morally, physically etc.