Re: Responding Vs Reacting…
Sometimes you have to retrain your subconscious, there might be negative programming during childhood. My wife would do the desi thing and constantly say negative things about children like yai bahut nikkama, hai, kaam chor hai, lazy hai etc etc she is programming their subconscious to believe he is lazy and useless. If that is the case he will have to tell himself everyday hey I am hard working, I am amazing and I am not useless. Our sports club psychologist makes athletes visualise that they are receiving a gold medal. They sit in a quiet place and close their eyes and visualise. The other way is to be mindful of what you feed your brain. In sales environment there are some sales people who keep reading the negative news about economy, job losses, inflated prices so subconsciously they become negative. If you believe that people who buy in a downturn profit immensely and read about that then subconsciously your presentation, your adjectives, your body language, your tone etc will align.