Most of us know & believe that in a husband-wife / fiance-fiancee relation, respect is the utmost important aspect. Its a different sort of respect - not the sort you give elders, not the sort you give parents.
Do you think you respect your husband/fiance enough? Even in anger or the verge of cracking lots of jokes do you think you maintain his respect? If your relation is more like friends, how do you draw the line where exactly to stop cracking jokes that may be offensive to him? What exactly shows that you respect him..Calling him “Ap”? not taking his name? Just putting him first in everything? or what…
I guess this is a very special kinda relationship which has a combination of respect and friendliness. I hope to call my future husband "Aap" but be friendly enough to also call him yaar just like I call my friends and siblings, although the level of friendlines will be decided after knowing the nature of the person and how much friendliness he allows for his wife/ fiancee. I see couples with more age difference have less friendliness and the husband ends up treating the wife more like children. But it really depends on the comfort level of each couple. People should know the things which can be offensive to their spouses/ fiances and should be careful when talking and cracking the jokes.
If I'm annoyed with him I call him by his name, otherwise I just call him babe/honey/sweetie. We don't act 'formal' with each other ever, I would never have married a man I could not have a laugh and a joke with.
I don't really know how I show him I respect him, he is not an unreasonable man so if he ever asks me to do anything, I do it. I'm very independent but I always tell him my plans, where I'm going, what time I'll be back etc. If I make a large purchase I consult him even if it's my own money I'm spending and he does the same.