I heard a statement and thought I would share it with you all and see what your opinions on it are.
I initially heard it in Urdu so I’ll post that then translate it.
Agar ek mard apni biwi ko “Aap” keh ker pukaarta hai ya “Jee” mai jawab deta hai lougoun ki soch mai vo mard apni biwi ke hukam maanta hai apni biwi ke neeche hai
If a man calls his wife “Aap” (respectfully) and answers her with “Jee” again respectfully. People think that he listens to his wife and is under her thumb.
The context I heard this in was a sehri show and the presenter was saying this is the mentality of people in regards to respecting their wife, this is the wrong type of thinking.
Showing respect to yuor wife does not mean you are a “Joroun ka Gulam”
^ this is just garbage. In our family everyone answers in ji to everything. I do that even online or on chat if someoen calls my name the automatic reply is ji. Yeah aap is mostly used for elders in my family but c'mon people come up with all sorts of garbage
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I heard a statement and thought I would share it with you all and see what your opinions on it are.
I initially heard it in Urdu so I'll post that then translate it.
Agar ek mard apni biwi ko "Aap" keh ker pukaarta hai ya "Jee" mai jawab deta hai lougoun ki soch mai vo mard apni biwi ke hukam maanta hai apni biwi ke neeche hai
If a man calls his wife "Aap" (respectfully) and answers her with "Jee" again respectfully. People think that he listens to his wife and is under her thumb.
The context I heard this in was a sehri show and the presenter was saying this is the mentality of people in regards to respecting their wife, this is the wrong type of thinking.
Showing respect to yuor wife does not mean you are a "Joroun ka Gulam"
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y u care abt othersssssssssssssssssssssss..... i hav seen in desiess.... sare life un ki dosrai logo kay barai mai soachtai ghuzar jate hai ..wo kiya khahai ge wo kiya soachaii gain .... its normal delimma with most of the desi ... so inshort jst do wht ever u lik n stay comfortable .. baqii sab bhaar mai jiennn :@:
Personally I know a married couple who I admire a lot. The love and respect between them is so clear MashAllah that you can feel it through their conversations when they talk to each other.
Araam seh baathe kharna aur itna respect maine kabhi bhi kisi couple mein nehi deekha MashAllah.
No doubt they also use: "aap" aur "ji", and continued it to the kids.
While reading a fairy tale for their beautiful and cute girl, she asked me something and I replied her with a "haan" (yes) because I was soo focused with the reading. yeah I'm quilty but it was Lion King :D
Immediately she corrected me and said: "Haan nehi kehte. Jii kehthe hai". That's what I call manners!
I was okay little at that time, but I still remember the incidence, cos it affected me quite much :)
Am I going to expect my future husband to say aap to me? YES! And I will definitely also do the same.
Because I have been brought up with the word "Ji" aur "aap". Doesn't matter bare ho yah chothe.
By respecting each other doesn't make any man less or woman small.
I think respect comes in different ways not just by speaking to each other.. My husband and I respect each other but he calls me by my name and I call him by his.. most of the time I call him "aap" and he calls me tum.. doesn't mean that he doesn't respect me.. Also, your tone of voice has a lot to do with how much you respect someone..so by simply saying aap doesn't mean one respects the other..
I think respect comes in different ways not just by speaking to each other.. My husband and I respect each other but he calls me by my name and I call him by his.. most of the time I call him "aap" and he calls me tum.. doesn't mean that he doesn't respect me.. Also, your tone of voice has a lot to do with how much you respect someone..so by simply saying aap doesn't mean one respects the other..
I agree with you. The tone is most important and if the wife knows how much he loves her then aap ya tum bhool ghar, pyar kam nehi ho jaye gha.
BUT it does something to me when I hear a man say : "Aysha aap 2 min khe liye idher aaye ghi?" than "Aysha tum idher aao ghi?".
I think it's like an icing on the cake. The extra respect is shown and by my opinion it's awesome.
