REQUIRED: Psycho-Analysis of a COPYCAT person.

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There is a person who copies me in many ways, it has grown from copying my perfume, copying my clothing, copying my furniture, copying my drinking preferences, to copying words that I say that refer to my own personal life and passing it off as her own.

Before I didn’t mind, but now i am slightly disturbed, bcos i don’t know why she does it. This person likes to criticise me at every opportunity she gets. This includes comments on how i do practical things wrong, b*tchy comments about my clothes - and the next time i c her she has got herself similar clothes, comments about my make-up, next time she goes and buys the exact same items.

She also likes to tell me how she thinks im ugly, so i tell her different ppl have different perceptions of beauty.

I would like to know if anyone can tell me the reason for this strange behaviour, why would u openly criticise a person, and then try to be like them? Is this a recognised psychological phenomenon? Is it down to insecurities?

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She is impressed by what she sees in you and she is jealous or maybe likes you and to hide that she tells you all those *****y things and copies everything you do etc.

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Thank-u jee for your response, i'm thinking of asking her now.

BTW why r u not asleep yet???

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RUpay Halwa jee apko kya batao right now these days whats been happening..
cannot sleep*sighz*

talking to people on msn and browsing gs..

Well i have lots of things to say on this matter because i have dealt with people like this before too...

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She has an inferiority complex that somehow you are better than her and she wants to undermine you and become better than you. She thinks by copying you and everything you do she is going to achieve that.

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Perhaps u cannot sleep bcos of all this msn and gs-ing! U need to SWITCH OFF and get it all outta your head!

(I think we r gonna end up pscho-analysing ourselves here!)

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She also likes to tell me how she thinks im ugly, so i tell her different ppl have different perceptions of beauty.
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That's an excellent reply.

1- If you don't mind will you please share how she handles this kinda response from you?

2- Have you ever tried ciriticizing HER looks? If not why not?

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:halo:

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i hate such meanies who go on telling others that they are ugly.pisses me badly
and yeah shes kinda jealous.um or in other wordst we can say,she trying to make u feel bad for urself ,trying to take away ur confidence .Shes insecure and the best thing to do it stay away from her .or if she talks abt how u dress up again tell her its none of her business and poke in her eye:snooty:.

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As a rule i generally don't criticise people based on their physical appearances, however, i made the exception with her, i criticised her eyebrows, way oveplucked, (bad, i know!) just to let her c how it feels! She was quite shocked, then argued back quite strongly.

Later she mentioned that she has noticed i've changed.

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Jee! It is all UK’s fault! 4 hour time difference! My best friend is in the uk. I want to talk to her. 3 o clock am here is 11 in uk innit? I cannot sleep because my throat hurts.

And what is this halo for lol ? was i bang on target? :stuck_out_tongue:

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Changed as in you finally decided to criticize her eyebrows?

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haha, yeah i will poke her in the eye!

It doesn’t mean anything to me when she says im ugly bcos i know thats not true (cos i don’t think i am!) and she has a fair way to go to make me lose my confidence (would u believe it?) As far as im concerned, i live my life according to what I want, and i don’t like to compare others to myself or compare others to me.

Unfortunately cannot stay away from her bcos we r related by marriage and the family will meet from time to time.

I will definitely say something nxt time she says anything to me, if she has a lack of manners, then i can also lose mine when i talk to her.

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Yeah, btw i did enjoy criticising her - ino its evil but she deserved it.

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Hey RupayHalwa!

Hmm, this person that you are talking about seems rather immature…is she still in highschool, LOL? Well, you know the famous saying, “Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.” Why would you imitate/copy something that you do not like?

She likes your style…therefore she copies it…but she’s way too insecure to admit that she’s copying you…and thats why she likes to pass off your ideas as her own.

It is very obvious that she is jealous of you…otherwise why would she copy you and then put you down at the same time? And jealousy stems from insecurity.

Think about it…she is superficial enough to tell you that you’re ugly. Why would she even bother? Why is she so concerned about looks? Looks are not the most important thing int the world…but for an insecure person like her…looks mean a lot. People who are more secure and confident with themselves also work on developing their PERSONALITIES…which this little girl…has failed to do.

It seems like she does not have the confidence to develop her own unique sense of style or personality…because she’s not sure of her self…she’s insecure…so it’s much easier to steal the ideas from you.

In my opinion, Halwa, there’s no point in going up to this girl and telling her to piss off and stop copying you. Cuz, she’ll just go around saying that YOU ARE JEALOUS of HER. (You know she will).

So, just be the **bigger **person. Ignore her. In fact, try to LIMIT YOUR CONTACT WITH HER as much as possible. Don’t be around her. Avoid her…I mean it’s not like you enjoy hanging out with her in the first place. Hopefully, the less she sees of you, the less she’ll have to copy, hehe.

Feel sorry for her, she has such a fragile self-esteem. The next time, if you EVER, see the girl doing something unique (not copied)…Be the bigger person…AND COMPLIMENT HER!!! She’ll be shocked. She’ll hopefully feel bad about treating you wrong. And you’ll end up boosting her self-confidence…because it seems like she really needs some uplifting.

And if nothing works…then you might as well put that bottle of ketchup you hate so much to some good use…if you’re not gonna eat it…squirt the red goodness at her!!!…see,** ketchup** is multi-functional :snooty:

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Yeah I know exaclty what you are talking about.

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THanks for the analysis ketchup, sorry, i mean redvelvet, i think most of it probably applies, except for the compliment bit, bcos i do compliment people when i think it doesn’t harm them, except it seems to go to her head, so now i’ll probably limit the compliments, i’ve already limited the contact to as much as i can given the circumstances.

I think u r def right about what she will say if confronted so i shall leave that for now.

The so and so (btw she is not a school kid!) is in for a barrage of ketchup if she attacks again!

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The so and so (btw she is not a school kid!) is in for a barrage of ketchup if she attacks again!
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Oh, I'm so touched and so happy for you. If you cannot consume that red bliss, you have at least found another way for it to help you tackle....issues....or adolescent minded obnoxious copy-cats! Beauty of Ketchup, what can I say?

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^ OK, so i didn't c that one coming, but u needn't be so happy, i mean why would ketchup lovers b so proud to c their beloved condiment only good enough to be served up with fried copy-cat?

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I think she likes u nd she likes ur evry lil thing as u said ur dress,house hold stuff etc
she is lower thn ur level in reality.she acts like that and 2 keep herself happy she shows u off.At least she thinks in herslf she is the all pefect and etc and make herself satisfied by poiting at u in neg way --u get me?
scnd she is jealous of u as well.her Comments shows this.You should point at her like Big evil,giv her bad look,only for time being lol