Just a simple question to all who are married/single/in a relationship or not in a relationship…do you all prefer to get married to someone who has similar interests as you have or the one who has different interests.
I am batteling over this for couple days. My personality is very outgoing. I am a hyper person. I like to explore things a lot. I don’t like to commit myself just on one thing. I change my taste over time and love to try new things. I like to keep myself in big crowd but then also sometimes depending on a mood I like being alone. I listen to high beat music but once in a while can listen to slow songs.
I sure can get along well with the person who is totally opposite than me but marrying one creeps me out. I found couple people saying that its better to marry someone who is different b/c it balances things out in life and you get to explore more of ur spouse BUT if your spouse is different than you then with whom you gonna enjoy ur activities? u see what I mean?
Anyways, will appreciate your inputs and thoughts that how would you handle someone who has different interests than you and the one who has similars.
if the person in question is opposite in a good way then go ahead... if not then don't, asthere's too much heartache involved. It's good when you want to try the same things(you dun have to be identical) but sum1 who has the same taste as you is definitely a good thing.
depends what kind of relationship you two will have...
if you think you two will live together only (no extended family around) and will be together lot of time...then having common interest may be a good idea...
but if you two are going to be living in extended family..and wil have your own lifes both...i mean you with other female of the family, him with other males, and his friends...then you may not need someone too similar...just few common (or opposite;) ) points that attracts each other!
life partner gotta be someone i can relate to emotionally
as far as interests are concerned, i think we shud always take interest in our partner's interests. if u share da same interests then have fun. and if u dun, then hav fun trying out new things. :D
so i guess at da end of da day interests doesnt really matter tat much. definitely not as much as how compatible u guyz are as life partners, as companions to each other.
i know some couples who enjoy each other's company 24/7 (then better share same interests hehehe)
and while there are those who prefer to hav some time away from each other once in a while and spend some time with good ole bunch of friends. a breath of fresh air :D
Seems like you change quite a lot depending on your mood, yet you want the other person to be always upbeat, outgoing and extrovert?
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If you really like going places and trying new things, it really wouldn't be fair to either of you to marry your complete opposite. The best is to marry someone who is not "EXACTLY" like you, but with whom you have shared interests.
Otherwise, you may be someone who enjoys travel stuck with someone who never wants to leave home.
However, two people who are moody and have volatile personalities will not necessarily be compatible - you'll just end up tossing dishes at each other when angry :). That said, marrying someone who is completely subservient and mousy isn't a good idea if you are moody either, you'll walk all over her and crush any spirit she has.
The best is to marry someone who has more balanced moods, similar hobbies, and an outgoing, assertive personality :)
as far as the outgoing part of your personality is concerned i dont think its a good idea to be with someone who is the oppposite of that. if u ended up in an arranged marriage and u didnt know much about your partner it makes sense for both parties to be flexible and compromise. but if u have the option to pick someone pick a person that will share your outgoing personality....he might like to explore new cuisines for example and u might like to explore new cultures (just an example) but in this case the compromise (u going out to explore restaurants) will be easier , and result in mutual growth as compared to one where u have to compromise by staying secluded with an introverted partner.
I think there should be more similarities than differences. You can never find someone who's exactly like you, therefore you're never gonna amrry someone who has exactly the same interests as you. Opposite attracts thing is all cool in the beginning but I think those differences can become annoyances (is that a word?) later on.
My husband and I are very different. We share basic fundamental beliefs but that’s about it. I like it that we’re different. I have tried so many different things that i didn’t even know i’d like because he’s into them and vice versa. It may be easier to be with someone similar but personally speaking, i think different is a lot more fun.
Big personality traits, values and beliefs you oughta share, (like religion, how to riase kids etc).. but lil things, like u like this food or he likes that, io dont think they matter..
Im a very moody person as well
I need someone who’s gnna push me (support me etc) to be the best I can be, coz I have potential but i’m the laziest person alive, which im tryin to change.. My idea of fun, is going out to eat, or shopping with one person.. im not a group person at all… everyone else I know is “the more the merrier”, my parents hate to go out to eat, they dont understand what the appeal of it is, they like to spend forever with relatives.. thas not my idea of fun, even tho i love my relatives too.. does that make sense? I like to go out and I wanna travel one day.. i hope I can find someone like that one day
with one person.. im not a group person at all… everyone else I know is “the more the merrier”, my parents hate to go out to eat, they dont understand what the appeal of it is, they like to spend forever with relatives.. thas not my idea of fun, even tho i love my relatives too.. does that make sense? I like to go out and I wanna travel one day.. i hope I can find someone like that one day 
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