I so agree with all of u, for the past 3 years i've been telling her the same thing...she is still so madly in love with him....i just can't get through to her...i had arranged for her to talk to the Sharia council but she says she can't put her mum through the pain and bezati...i think her mum is in more pain seeing her sat at home not sure what ther future holds for her..her mum thinks she shoudl be patient...i disagree, i think waiting 3 years is punishment not patience.
she did speak to an imam, who tried to sort things out, but her hubby who has no balls whatsoever told the Imam that his dad would sort things out....
RV i have been honest with her and told her to sod him...but she keeps thinking things will be hunky dory again...i feel so sorry for her i wish she could be strong and throw everything in the jerks face
She should get a khula if he refuses to divorce her but unfortunately, she needs consent for a Khula too (I don't understand my religion sometimes!). However, if he refuses to consent to a Khula, she can persuade him to enter into an agreement of Khul’ (a release for payment from the wife). So she can pay him some amount and get his consent to agree to the Khula. .
I am really confused about the whole Khula thing, i have read in several places that a woman needs her husbands consent for Khula...but there was a programme on Tv a while back about Khula..where a woman had asked for khula through the Shariah court, her husband did not respond, 3 notices were sent by the council, he replied to neither and then the court signed a form and gave her a letter stating that she was now divorced...
i think this is the only way for her, but i've been convincing her for the past year...this hotel redezvous has just thrown her back to square 1, i dont know whether to laugh or cry at her bewakoofi.
I will convince her to contact the Shariah council, and that there is no bezati in applying for Khula, his family is tapped, his uncle seperated from his wife for 15 years and then divorced her...they love to ruin a girls life.
I will convince her but cannot physically take her to teh Shariah Council as my family is telling me to keep away as her in-laws are psychos...the only thing I can do is guide her....