To a shy disciple who wanted to become self-confident the Master said, “You look for certainty in the eyes of others and you think that is self-confidence”.
“Shall I give no weight to the opinion of others, then”?
“On the contrary. Weigh everything they say, but do not be controlled by it”.
“How does one break the control”?
“How does one break a delusion”?
The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.