Do others often feel that if they could they would really like to relive a certain time/event again? There are events in my life that I can’t remember ever happening (and I am not even that old!). If there was no evidence ie photos etc I could quite happily deny they ever happened, and it makes me sad because I think I didn’t feel them enough at the time. It’s not that I want to change things, but instead want some memories of how I felt at the time!
Does anybody else get this? It may just be what studying 24 hours a day has done to me, but just wondering.
why do you want to relive the past when you are still alive and quite capable to live new moments of life that can be even greater than the one happened in past?
the only time i wished for something like that is from the time when i was living in pakistan, or times i spent with those people who are not alive anymore like my grandparents, and my phoppo.
You are right yanzala, inshallah there will be many more to come. I think I often forget how lucky I am, alhumdulillah. I think it is more because they are things that are meant to be once in a life time events, and although they didn't happen that long ago at all, I don't remember or feel anything!
You guys seem much more normal thinking about the past/childhood.
I don't remember much about my childhood, except for doing well at school and the games I played with cousins.
My friends from back then tell me about all this stuff about me (and others) that I have NO idea about any of it.
One big event that I don't recall my feelings about, is my nani's death about 8 years ago. I remember feeling nervous when she was sick, but I don't remember how it felt when she did pass away. I may have taken it well, I don't know. Everyone around me was basically shattered. My mom went through hell, and I don't remember her condition either. My reactions weren't as big as my siblings. I was taking care of my 1.5 month old cousin within an hour of that happening, even before the paramedics got there.
But now, sometimes I find myself in tears thinking about her, even though I was never very close to her.
umm no not really ... cuzz i have a illy good memo lol .. i still remember stuff from when i was even little like 2 yearz old ( obviously not all of it) but somewhat. =)
I've heard that taste and smell are much better at revoking memories than actually seeing the places you were once at. I think it's lovely to sit down with a cup of tea and reminicse all the happy memories, really makes you appreciate life for what it is.
I love listening to my parents tell me their childhood memories, it's almost as if they lived in another world.
I've noticed a lot of my memories are actually associated with pictures that were taken at the time. Maybe sit down with family with an old album and see what you remember, most of mine are pieced together with scraps, some of my own memories, other things that I don't actually remember but people have told me.
It's life I guess, the times you can't remember probably aren't worth it anyway, cherish the ones you have :)
KiteRunner that is so sweet! For me I don't think it's about memory, I remember lots about my childhood, and have really enjoyed it, infact really I am still a bachi. Its just certain things lately. I think I just expected them to be all wow and life changing, but nothing seems to have changed? So resultantly as nothing has changed, I feel they didn't happen. But they did, if that makes sense?
I wouldnt mind reliving my wedding again! i was spaced out most of the time from feeling the surreality of actually getting married, a life changing moment. other than that, i guess itd be nice to relive moments with those who have passed away, but then that sort of runs the risks of bringing back grief that ive dealt with already.
KiteRunner that is so sweet! For me I don't think it's about memory, I remember lots about my childhood, and have really enjoyed it, infact really I am still a bachi. Its just certain things lately. I think I just expected them to be all wow and life changing, but nothing seems to have changed? So resultantly as nothing has changed, I feel they didn't happen. But they did, if that makes sense?
I think I understand. I'm guessing you mean that you thought that right now would be a turning point in your life, full of love, adventure and what not. I think it's just because when you're in the moment you don't think much of it, but when you look at these years 5-10 years down the line it will feel like your best years. My mum always tells us about her college days and all the antics they would get up to, but she never felt like it was an exciting 'wow' time at the time but now when she looks back it seems like another life full of colour and youth.
For now just live in the moment and treasure the memories you do have, and concentrate on the little happinesses in life like a hot cup of tea, or a top you bought in a bragain, or takeaway/film night; maybe when you have grandchildren running around you one day in-sha'Allah you'll realize that you were living this amazing life but you never noticed.
Reading over, I sound quite patronising, I'm sorry if I come across like that, I don't mean to!
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That isn't patronising, I get what you mean. I do have a sensible head I think, and I keep telling myself that I should enjoy university because it will be a time that I will look back on and remember! But aaaah, there are just a few things, in particular one event that I was so looking forward to and I just wish and wish that it had been as I had imagined for so long! I really thought it would be special, but I don't remember enjoying it, and now have no feelings regarding it! :(
I sound like such a complainer, but I just imagined it to be a significant event, but yet it doesn't feel like one, but I was obviously there.