Re: [Religious People] Concern
USResident:
His wife no longer entertains male colleagues and their families - she has agreed to take that saccrifice on her career.
His daughter agreed to wear the hijaab, not socialize with guys AT ALL (not even for professional reasons), and agreed to go to a girls only school. She managed to get into a really good business school (I forget which one - in Karachi) and it was co-ed and so upon persuasion he let her go so she could get a good business training. She eventually didn't complete because of her marriage (I don't know whether he was involved in that decision or not, but I tried to persuade her to finish and she said she'd think about it, but then got pregnant post-marriage.) Now she's a married woman and her husband is pretty open minded. I haven't seen her since the marriage, so I don't know if she's still wearing the hijab. She was only doing it upon her father's demands, and not of her free will.
His daughter agreed to not go out anywhere with friends and only stay at home and go to school.
His wife agreed to allow her two sons to be switched over to a madrassah, which she staunchly opposed because she wanted them to go to an English-medium school. Supposedly they're smart as whips though and the madrassah is a quality one and not an extremist sort. Its either that or they go to an English-medium school during the day and then go for religious school afterwards - can't remember which decision they settled on.
His wife agreed to not mind him going on Tableeghi missions, which is fine, but the problem is when it becomes too often.
So, they've tried to work with it, and there were so many times she came running to our family members saying she wants a divorce. My aunts would convince her to stay in the marriage and make the best of it - that you never know when people can change. They're so old, and frankly, she still has 2 boys to raise. After she's done with that, she might very well go for a divorce.