Me? I’m a gori, raised in a christian household but allowed to stop prior to “confimation”. My parents wanted their kids to have the foundations but not be rooted down to a particularr religion against our will.
Me? I have always viewed religion with a skeptical eye, its like beleiving in magic yeah? I’m a comp-science major. I want PROOF. Yet, in religion there IS no proof.
So thats MY sad story. But..for my boys..I SO want them to have the beleif. I SO want them to have religion. It is SUCH a comfort to beleivers and I th*ink *if they have that foundation, that beleif…everything else will just follow.
Being born and raised as a Muslim I know that I'd want to provide my children with the same foundations I was raised on and that means teaching them about Islam and instilling my religion in to them from the outset.
It's one thing to know and understand human values and ethics and another to actually practice them according to an organized religion. What happens with following a religion is reducing confusion, always having something to refer to as a guideline and above all having unity in the thought process between a family.
hareem, yes its magical and all that...yet itdoesnt impart the peace and serenity and comfort that true beleif in a religion can give. HOW Iwant my boys to have that. It wouldbe the biggest and best giftthehy could ever receive.
hareem, yes its magical and all that...yet itdoesnt impart the peace and serenity and comfort that true beleif in a religion can give. HOW Iwant my boys to have that. It wouldbe the biggest and best giftthehy could ever receive.
I don't know, it's complicated....my simple understanding is that it's not just following a set of rules of a religion that gives you peace or comfort but purification of your heart. I alone can't instill any good in my kids so I do my bit and leave the rest to God. I believe keeping kids close to nature can also play a big part in developing a child's spirituality.
Instead of Religion, I'd use the word "spiritualism" here; the opposite of materialism.
hareem, yes its magical and all that...yet itdoesnt impart the peace and serenity and comfort that true beleif in a religion can give. HOW Iwant my boys to have that. It wouldbe the biggest and best giftthehy could ever receive.
Really? I am confused as to why you believe that it would make the best gift for them.
I can understand how advantageous a belief like that can be. But like you mentioned, there is an issue with its lack of proofs. That doesn't mean it has to be thrown out the window. But wouldn't it be better if kids grew up with the foundations of being good human beings, with awareness of the concept of God, but not actively made (read: encouraged) to believe in one?
I feel that it is wrong to teach your kids something you don't believe in, yourself.
Well, dunno about the wrong but it may not be as effective because there will be a lack of conviction, passion. I could never teach my child to drive if I didn't know it...theoretically maybe but not the practical application.
Religion is pretty much the same way for children look more for an example to follow in the early stages of life rather that just talk and textbook knowledge.
My dad's side of the family is pretty religious. Even though I like or not - it somehow embedded in me.
It didn't come out until I had kids because I have never felt so helpless (not in control of the situation) and responsible for another human being in entire adult life. I had no choice to but to believe.
I want my children to have faith but somehow think that I will do a half assed (pardon my french) job and that's why i want to expose them to someone like my MIL and my dad whose faith have moved mountains.
NJ, that’s another thing, having kids around your role models help…but then again, you don’t want those kids getting conflicting messages where grandma says you should pray 5 times a day and I don’t…then they’ll question mommy and I’ll lose my credibility big time. And also teach my kids that it’s OK not to do that…see where I’m going?
kinda... I think faith is had to do with more than just prayers. I think it has to do with purpose and accepting things as God's purpose.
I wish my dad didn't give us so much religious leniency. I see my cousins and prayer is a part of their life. They developed that very early on. It's a habit like breathing. I see that in my dad and my MIL, all my aunts because they were given no if and or buts about it.
Prayer was just an example…but yes…I wonder if I will have the heart to wake my child up at 4am when she’s baaligh for fajr…but first I have to.
Knowing what is right and wrong is one thing, even feeling it and having a niyah to implement it…but actually doing it is the hardest part…and then further instilling it in your child…oh my god, such a huge responsibility :hinna:
It is indeed and I have reliazed that it’s mine and my hubby’s alone. People will help them readh the Quran but it’s my responsibility to connect the dots for her, answer her questions and show her life examples so she can work those into her everyday life.
for me Islam is not just a religion in which we have prayer and do other ritual acts...but its a way of life. I would want my kids (inshallah!) to put their faith in everything they do - in terms of teaching them manners, their education, and teaching them the prayer and Quran. I want my kids (inshallah!) to build their lives around Islam and not the other way around. And at the same time giving them that balance between deen and duniya, and to respect other people's beliefs. I would want to give them the knowledge so they can talk about their religion to other people and know why we do the things we do.
I hope I made sense. May Allah SWT allow me to do this.
It is SUCH a comfort to beleivers and I th*ink *if they have that foundation, that beleif...everything else will just follow.
Agree?
I disagree. I've seen people from very religious families who have weak beleif, and I've seen the most pious individuals from families with weak belief.
I disagree. I've seen people from very religious families who have weak beleif, and I've seen the most pious individuals from families with weak belief.
So your result is if I can do anything wrong right now but eventually my children are going to turn good or if I pray five times a day and my children will never follow me.;)
Me? I'm a gori, raised in a christian household but allowed to stop prior to "confimation". My parents wanted their kids to have the foundations but not be rooted down to a particularr religion against our will.
Me? I have always viewed religion with a skeptical eye, its like beleiving in magic yeah? I'm a comp-science major. I want PROOF. Yet, in religion there IS no proof.
So thats MY sad story. But..for my boys..I SO want them to have the beleif. I SO want them to have religion. It is SUCH a comfort to beleivers and I th*ink *if they have that foundation, that beleif...everything else will just follow.
Agree?
Mom of 3 I really respect your views because the toughest job is even though you are not muslim but you want your children to be Muslim.It is hard but not impossible and if you are doing it and when you will be doing you will find peace for yourself too. I don't know but some how I believe that if you are doing something right even though you didn't do it for yourself and for the sake of your children; you will be rewarded and it sure indeed is a very good thing.
In my opinion you should tell children about religion and when they will be adults they will decide.But I think so you should keep practicing and teaching them Islam.
Me? I'm a gori, raised in a christian household but allowed to stop prior to "confimation". My parents wanted their kids to have the foundations but not be rooted down to a particularr religion against our will.
Me? I have always viewed religion with a skeptical eye, its like beleiving in magic yeah? I'm a comp-science major. I want PROOF. Yet, in religion there IS no proof.
So thats MY sad story. But..for my boys..I SO want them to have the beleif. I SO want them to have religion. It is SUCH a comfort to beleivers and I th*ink *if they have that foundation, that beleif...everything else will just follow.
I beleive religion is very important. I think it gives a person SOUL.
I think you HAVE to have a fear of God...it's important because it gives life meaning. Without a fear of GOD, people equate themselves to be as powerful as GOD and feel they are free to do whatever they want whenever they want.
Religion sets boundaries, it provides morals and values. I think its very important....even if one is not practicing perfectly like praying 5 times a day....having strong faith makes their life meaninful.
I'm not that religious but I have extremely strong faith...I know what is right and wrong...when I SIN I always recognize that its bad and feel guilty...I dont have the attitude that it is NORMAL to commit that SIN...people without religion feel dont have that guilty feeling.
So your result is if I can do anything wrong right now but eventually my children are going to turn good or if I pray five times a day and my children will never follow me.;)
it is definitely a possibility, other influences factor in, as well as how the 'religion' is taught to them. I have known people who were extremely bossed by their folks and went through the motions without really developing the belief and when they had freedom went crazy, I have seen the other way round too where kids see parents too loosey goosey lifestyle and wonder what it is about. the rebellion in adolescent years can produce interesting situations.
