Bobby1
February 8, 2017, 1:25am
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Re: Relationship with Sister in law
I don’t understand why I should apologize for something like that though. I wanted to get a facial but I told my bhabi that if the price is too high that it is not worth it and that it is not necessary. The building that the salon was in was right next door. I didn’t want to waste her time right then because she had to take my nephew for a haircut but she and my brother insisted that we go for the stupid facial. Why force me when I’m saying that we should wait until after my nephew’s haircut for his big birthday celebration, plus the barber delayed the appointment even more so bhabi was in a super bad mood. so basically she screamed at me and took her anger, that she had kept in reserve for the barber, out on me when I saw that the price of the facial was too high and I said that I didn’t want it right then and that we should just forget about it and get the work done at the barber first. I never saw my bhabi that angry before. It was a turning point in how I saw her. She screamed so loud that I wasted her time, my little 8 year old nephew was staring at her in shock.
It shouldn’t have escalated to that. Forcing someone to do something right then even if they don’t want to is wrong.
I have a feeling that bhabi changed when my parents decided to leave their huge, new house to me instead of my elder brother and bhabi. I’m taking care of it, paying bills, property tax on it so my parents figured it should go to me. I feel like her behavior towards me, the way she talked to me changed after that. I don’t know what the cause of it was but I am having to deal with this new version of her.
From the standards I follow she seems like a horrible person who puts on a facade of civility for personal benefit, not all relationships are worth saving. Getting rid of people who invoke negative feelings is the first step towards happiness. Good people don’t yell at people, they respect other peoples wishes, have empathy and are kind and nurturing.