i used to be pretty angry with both of them… especially my father. always screaming and irritated at everything they’d do. i dont know why i had all that anger. maybe i was spoilt. haha… kuch akelay reh kar hosh aa gaya phir. now when i think back, i realise how obscene i used to be. i think i hurt them alot. life is not as easy as you think it is when you have all provided to you without having to work hard for it. the only regret is that they could not give us quality time so… but i understand they were too busy.
now my relationship with them is candid… very candid. they always know what im upto. and bcz they know how angry i was with them before so in an effort to keep me this way (happy and wanting them), they accept all my wishes
and yes... whenever i see someone young pissed off with their parents, i tend to take it as was my situation so tell them to calm down as sometimes parents do not have time for the emotional crap of the relationship. i mean if they do not hug you daily and do not kiss you and tell you constantly that they love you, it doesnt mean that they do not love you. they do but they just dont have time to show it. some kids are demanding... more demanding emotionally. so when they do not get that emotional qouta stuffed by the parents, they start to view things negatively. blaming parents for anything wrong happens with you. for some parents providing every material sh!t is most important and nothing else. it doesnt mean that they dont love you. it just means that they think differently. they are just different than you. those young and immature kids should try to understand that and stop complaining.
if they still think the life is easy without the protectors, they should give it a try. they should try living on their own. sab kuch balance ho jaye ga. or bohot si baatein samajh mein anay lagein gi.
Verizon, its interestnig u noted that… i noted the same thing about 5 years ago when i went back and witnessed my nani ma telling my mum off and the way my mum would sulk… at those times i didnt quite know who to sympathise with more.. but then when mum yelled at me.. i decided nani ma was the way to go :k:
Matsui, that was a pretty accurate cycle (line).. hmm very interesting
I'm quite close to my mom, alhamdulillah. I share quite a lot with her, however, it is at times limited to an extent. Both my parents love me a lot and they get worried about my problems very easily. I've learned over time to not to share things that would worry them. Otherwise I share quite a lot with my mom and sister.
I respect my dad and try my best to be at my best behaviour around him and not to say anything that would hurt or offend him.
Haha... I enjoy my relationship with my sister a lot as well, alhamdulillah. We joke around often and really care about each other, alhamdulillah. I'm the aggressive one and she is (almost) always calm and cool. She sort of nicely shuts me up, tries to cool me down and puts some sense into my head whenever there is need for it.
i am pretty friendly with them but there are limits, cuz i respect them alot...but sometimes i regret being close to them cuz i say stuff that hurts them :( like today i yelled back at my mom saying "..cuz i am not like you" and i basically made it sound like shes horrible and i dont want to be like her :( n i didnt mean that at all!!! but other than that they are pretty cool and i absolutely love my dady :D
ermm...i'll add my two cents later, but umm, with the exception of LegallyBrown, sounds like everyone has a great relationship, now or before with their parents. what about those that REALLY get ticked off at them, at one point or another, or forever. do they just don't wanna say anything or that just doesn't exist? or can't exist?
^ na it does exist.. there have been times when ive been completely ticked off by my parents.. but honestly there is no point on holding onto those thoughts.. i cant even remember when or why i was ticked off with them.... which is a good thing.. cus i compare it to the happier moments.. and those outdo the bad by miles
i have a similar relationship with my parents like u do sadzz, my mother is my best friend, my confidant and i can talk to her about anything to everything. my dad is just adorable. i share lot of similar habits with him..hehe we both love to gang up on mom sometimes. he can be very protective at times but he means well and i know it. my parents can just look at my face and know what i am feeling. they are my world and i dont know how i'll survive without them after rukhsati :(
**My mom and I have gotten much closer these last six months since my dad's been gone. There's more understanding between us now and in all this time I think we've fought only once, as compared to my last year of high school was a new argument everyday. She worries about me constantly and I find myself worrying about her a lot more now. Even if she goes out for her daily walks, i'll make her take her cell phone along so i can contact her if needed. I feel guilty all those times i fought with my parents or was b!tchy towards them for no reason. I have a lot of love and respect for my mother, but I dn't want to make the same decisions she made, even though I understand totally they weren't really "her" decisions to make, given her circumstances.
The same things that would have pissed me off a few years ago, I laugh at now, like how my mom warns me to stay away from the stove when she's not home, or coming all the way to my college and taking the train home with me when I have a class that ends really late, or yelling at me to put on a scarf when it's cold out. I used to think I was more like my dad, habits and looks-wise, but when it coems to personality i'm exactly like her. The things she's done for me and my brother and my dad, I don't think I could ever be capable of doing for my own family one day.
I missmy father like crazy. He's in Pakistan and everyday I'm scared to death something will happen. :( I don't know how I'll be able to live w/o them, esp my mom, after I get married. That's why right now I'm so (irrationally?) against the idea of living with the in laws, coz it doesn't seem fair to me...but that's another thread I guess...**
