please post in this thread relevant AYAHS and authentic ahadeeth that define Islamic rules regarding relationships with na-mehrams.
particularly relationships between a man and woman before marriage.
also if you have a particular religious belief regarding this and can support it with ayahs and ahadith, please share.
JAZAKALLAH
many many thanks
-irem
Al-Tirmidhi 3118, Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab , Tirmidhi transmitted it
The Prophet (saaws) said, “Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third.”
Sayyiduna Uqbah ibn Aamir (Radhiallaahu Anhu) reports that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘Beware of mixing with women.’ An Ansari Sahaabi enquired, ‘Oh Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam), what about the brother-in-law?’ At this, Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) replied, ‘The brother-in-law is death!’ (Sahih Bukhari Hadith5232; Sahih Muslim Hadith5638)
Hadith narrated by Sayyiduna Abdullah ibn Abbaas (Radhiallaahu Anhu) that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, ‘No man should be in seclusion with another woman except the Mahrams.’ (Sahih Bukhari Hadith5233, 1862)
Hadith - Al-Tirmidhi 3119, Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah
The Prophet said, “Do not visit women whose husbands are away from home, for the Devil circulates in you like your blood.” He was asked if this applied to him also and said, “To me also, but Allah has helped me against him so that I may be safe.” [Tirmidhi transmitted it.]
Sahih Muslim
Book 008, Number 3242: Jabir heard Allah’s Apostle (may peace be upon him) say: When a woman fascinates any one of you and she captivates his heart, he should go to his wife and have an intercourse with her, for it would repel what he feels.
“What’s Wrong With A Lustful Gaze?”
Many of us who are used to watching The Bachelor, SINbad or Temptation Island, or are addicted to Bollywood movies, or enjoy the company of people of the opposite gender, may wonder what’s wrong with lustfully staring at the attractive features of the opposite gender? Perhaps one saying of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) sums it all up:
“The unrestrained glance is one of the poisoned arrows of Shaytan"
Therefore, a secret lustful look at a person of opposite gender has been compared by the Prophet to an arrow from Shaytan that:
• It poisons our hearts (what exactly do you gain out if it apart from the momentary thrill of having sinned? Is there anything worse than enjoying what Allah hates?)
• It ruins our intentions (am I doing it for Allah or to check out the crowd?)
• It gives rise to false hopes and desires (“I wish I could…”, “Maybe she’ll…”, “I think he does…” when you know you can’t, she won’t, and he doesn’t!)
• It distorts our perception of ‘reality’ (love is not ‘at first sight’ but lust is, a wife is not picked up off streets, real men don’t have to flirt to be noticed, and there is nothing ‘casual’ about sex)
• It deprives us from enjoying and concentrating in Prayers (it’s very hard to remember Allah while replaying last night’s activities in one’s head)
• It gives rise to constant feeling of guilt and depression (have you ever actually felt better about yourself after you did it than before?)
• It sometimes leads to sleepless nights (when fantasies seem so ‘real’…)
• It renders our heart weak for continuous Shaytanic attacks (through addictions to music, fashion, self-image, explicit sights and sounds, etc)
• It promotes hypocrisy (does the ‘shell’ match the ‘core’?)
• It eventually leads to Zina (unlawful intimacy: the darkness that draws one deeper and deeper until one is incapable of escaping even if willing, except he/she who Allah guides)
• Above all, it diminishes our love for and fear of Allah (you wouldn’t be doing it if you thought about how Great and Loving the One you are turning away from, instead if how ‘small’ or ‘innocent’ your sin)
How should women speak to non-mahram men?
Women should speak as commanded byAllah (swt) in the Quran: “…speak not in anaffected (alluring) tone, so that he in whoseheart is a disease and may yearn, butspeak honourably” (Q33:32).
Can a man be alone with a non-mahram woman?Seclusion between a woman and a non-mahram man must be avoided. The Prophet(s) said: “No man should be in seclusionwith a woman.”
Is it wrong for two people of the opposite sex to be very good friends at school and outside of school?
Dr. Muzammil Siddiqui answers " Muslims should have good elations with all people, males as well as females. At school, at work, in you neighborhood etc. you should be kind and courteous to everyone. However, it is not allowed in Islam to take a non-mahram person or persons of the opposite gender as a very close friend.
Such friendship often leads to Haram. In the Qur’an, Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala mentioned that good men and women are those who marry, do not have fornicating relationships and do not have “paramours” (“akhdan” see al-Nisa’ 4:25; al-Ma’idah 5:5). “Akhdan” are “sweethearts” or for a man a “mistress” and for a woman a “lover”.
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jazakallah MM :)
irem u chose
really a good topic. :k:
Hi!!
Dear Irem,
I like to use logic , since i think islam is AEN NE FITRAT.
If any thing one does wrong (SIN) you feel it.
Firstly let me know what kind of relations you are looking for discussion topic.
If friendly!
Inorder to control the social problems, it is not allowed to have deep friendship between NAMEHRAMS at all. (Religiously speaking)
This is because in our religion we can not ignore twisted mind people; so keeping the worst people in mind religion puts limitations.
Now those who know well "ina mal aamal ou bin Neyat" well and have control on them; can have such friendship as girls have with girls and boys have with boys. (as social animals))
How to avoid sins between such friendship, between a boy and a girl?
1) Never stay alone with each other. Because if there is a girl and a boy alone at one place ; for sure third would be SHATAN. And he can and would try to divert both of you towards sin.
2) What ever you talk to each other you check if you can tell your mother or father about it. If you can tell them without hesitation, then your NEYAY was not bad in that frindship.
3) Do not act or speak with each other such thing that it needs you to speak lie , in case if some one questions you about your friendship kind.
So having friendship of such kind needs very nice , very good charactered person, therefore islams puts full stop. Bye sokoon
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therefore islams puts full stop
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I assume this is the summary of your post
sokoon thanks for the reply
everyone.