Re: relationship dillema
He tells her family that she has sex with him. What is her family going to do? Kill her?
Based on what OP has written about the guy and his family…it’s pretty obvious that her life will be miserable if she marries him. She is already going against her families wishes by continuing with this relationship.
IF her future children grow up to be just like this guy/his family…what is she going to tell herself to justify that and deal with that guilt? That its ok b/c she wasn’t responsible/brave enough to face the consequences of her own actions (ie. marry him b/c he threatened to tell her parents she slept with him).
IF he chooses to tell her family that she slept with him…of course her family will be furious, hurt, angry etc…all those are expected emotions. There will be plenty of yelling/crying from her mom/dad. But I highly doubt that they will advertise the fact that their daughter slept with the guy. Assuming her family isn’t the psychotic type that believes in honor-killing…eventually they will get over it. OP is only 20…she will still have the potential to meet a guy who will treat her with respect and whose family is more compatible with hers.
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Option A: Marry this guy and have a guaranteed miserable future (lets not even get started with future children in this mess).
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Option B: Get this guy out of OPs life and move on. Even IF the guy decides to blackmail her and tell her parents about their sex life…OP still has the potential to find a good man and have a happy life.