Re: Relationship dilemma
Serena...
You have spent a year of your life with this one guy and you have shared things that you may have not shared with anyone else...so it is harder for you to let go even though in your mind rationally that is the correct thing to do...
As for him cheating...for one of my friends he cheated because he didnt care about his gal...she forgave him and hes still cheating on her...thats what you need to hope wont be the case...
however for another...its just problems were to much between her and him...she loves him but she was upset at how things were...so she cheated cos she was depressed...for your partner he may feel depressed and insecure becuase he doesnt feel he is good enough for you and may feel guilty about his alcohol problem...cheating isnt always lustful and malicious...it can be done to those you love...
Im not condoning it...but all im saying is that someone who cheats doesnt neccesary not love you...but he might just be playing games...you need to assess that...
Its a tough situation and you need to see things in a rational framework...dont let your criteria be thats it tough to let go and we have shared so much...make sure you assess whether the future looks bright?...does he look like solving his problems?...do you genuinely feel that you can trust him again?...do you want a family with him?...etc...
I hope all works out...