Relationship Deal Breakers

Lifestyle Relationships
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  • Infidelity
  • Abuse
  • Substance abuse
  • Religious/political beliefs

So on and so forth… Apart from the obvious ones I mentioned, what would break the deal for you?

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

  • Infidelity = Ultimate deal breaker

  • Abuse = Depends on the type of abuse, circumstances, extent plus hundred other factors

  • Substance Abuse = Wouldn't mind if she sniffs a samadbond from time to time :) wudn't even mind if she smokes.

Religious/political beliefs: For religious beliefs, everyone have some difference of opinions on grey areas and small things. But obviously differing views on tauheed would be a deal breaker. As regards political beliefs, I don't care... besides, I am pretty sure I can convince many people atleast to some extent in this area.

So apart from infidelity, I think everything else is repairable. However, that does make me wonder about the definition of infidelity. Does smiling at someone count as one, or having a date, or more than that ?

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

cast,
culture,
mama says so or daddy says so,
income and bank balance,
profession,
sharing/not sharing secrets,
geographical location,
very high phone bill,
cooking skills,

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

Bad hygiene, disrespectful behavior, an Oilers fan....

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

rude, short tempered, obsessive

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

I dont know what could be a deal breaker. I have become more accommodating after getting married. Things that I USED to think would be a deal breaker, I have learned to coupe up with.

(same goes for my begum and that obvious from her chants when she is really mad "aaah I dont know why and how I m living with you....." ) :)

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Only a psycho freak would consider "smilling" at someone else a form of cheating.

But yes, dating, flirting, sex/sex acts. not good.

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some people are so funny! No smiling does not count as infidelity :rotfl:

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

when I was younger I thought these things would be ultimate deal breakers but for someone who has been around couples that have been married for 10, 20 years - sometimes these things are not even a deal breaker.

People forgive, people forget - some stay in relationships for the sake of their children or parents or monetary gain

Just open the newspaper and see how many examples of there are - John Edwards, Tiger woods etc.

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

Successful and influential get away with infidelity, like, Tiger woods, Bill Clinton, Diana, its only the comman man or woman who gets kicked for it.

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but yea i think except for infadility most of hte things can be worked out

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For most its Unsatisfying Sex but because its taboo to talk about it they find other excuses.

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

If the relationship is going well then how can the sex be unsatisfying?

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Man with a Plan, that's pretty terrible of a person to do. There are ways to work on performance in that area, instead of just throwing out a girl or a guy on some other excuse when its really sexual incompatibility. Don't people get married having some sense of whether they are attracted to the other person or not?

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

I think most of the couples do work on that area and when does it not work well than they grow apart or learn to live in the same roof without objections or complaints. They make adjustments. Even though from outside it may look like they are living together for a while 'happily' but picture does not tell the whole story.

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^ but thats definitely not a deal breaker

ahem… i think ‘climax’ has nothing to do with good relationships … and thats what i call ‘unsatisfying’ :snooty: …

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

Well then they're just being really silly. Most cases - two people can hook up and have excellent sex if they really tried. Generally, any two people who are attracted to each other to begin with. It might involve some teaching, or going to a marriage counselor. But it can be done. Desi's just are not open to that sort of thing.

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You mean Caste? That's a deal breaker for you? wow!

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

Change of sexual preferences

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Re: Relationship Deal Breakers

I really dont care what hes done before he got with me. Aslong as he hasnt abused a woman, and wont cheat on me after we marry.
Everything else is fine.