…expectations of one sided trust, of one sided honesty and of one sided purity.
will they work? do they stand the test of changing and harder
times?
setting up all targets and then expecting the others to simply remain hand tied,
is it fair?
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nope never!
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i agree :D
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sometimes our expectations fell a short...
AND WE FEEL A LITTLE bit robbed when our expectations are not met..
the expected is just always keeps up steady , standing still...
the expected is just the beginning ..
the unexpected is what changes our lives ..
the expectation are ...when every time when look at someone you...
u feel better ..because u love this someone ...
u can t believe it ....again but ..its real ..
thn u got a wonder why we clinged to our expectations ....thts it I guess..
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I think everything is fair ...as long as u have taken the task to move with them...
as its ur own decision ...no one forcing u to move with tht person ....
so when u have taken the start ...thn its ur responsibility tht ..u must reach to the end point ...no matter whtever the path one follows...
All these things r important to think abt in the beginning .......
so u were not having any problem in the beginning ......thn u should not have the right to say anything ..in the midway ....
otherwise , I think u r @ fault not the other person ....thn there are alot of methods for the negotiation ..like soothing , forcing , compromising ,withdrawing or may be confrontation-problem solving
the best method is forcing for the person ..who thought he is having problems ..while u r in the mid...hehe ...
one must thing in the initials .....but one decided something ....
one should think that he himself is responsible for all consequences ...
Don t blame others for something ..u urself can t resist ..
thn u know who is loser -- not the one who pass or fail ...
BUT the one who never tries @ all ...
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Unfortunately in our setup its the gal who has to compromise if not all but most of her expectations.its not fair but will take probably yrs to change
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^^ I think it is not all that unfortunate; it is a price for not getting properly educated (if one had the chance). Get properly educated and stand on your feet before committing so that you can send any ba$t@rd packing if one comes your way.
However, that being said, in a relationship it, at times, becomes difficult to see that the other person is compromising. Don't complain about compromising without judging your relationship objectively.
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^^ I think it is not all that unfortunate; it is a price for not getting properly educated (if one had the chance). Get properly educated and stand on your feet before committing so that you can send any ba$t@rd packing if one comes your way.
However, that being said, in a relationship it, at times, becomes difficult to see that the other person is compromising. Don't complain about compromising without judging your relationship objectively.
r u a male?if yes then u can say wat u said because only females know wat it takes to keep a relation n marriage. and i do think u should consider ur words b4 u post or criticize someone.i i would luv to hear how much hav u compromised in ur married life so far
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...expectations of one sided trust, of one sided honesty and of one sided purity.
will they work? do they stand the test of changing and harder times?
setting up all targets and then expecting the others to simply remain hand tied, is it fair?
Its just easier said then done...and for the fairness,..ofcourse its not, doesst feel like that to the being patient partner....sooner or later ..frustrations keep on building up until they explode...and then again it also depends on the personality of the persons involved..
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Expectations only bring disappointment...
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open minded ness calls for a sense of predicting which way some form of a well-founded relationship will go... No?
if you wil never have any trust in any one, how will you ever feel confident about someone?
cohesion between a man and a woman, a follower and the mentor, or god and its creation is all about faith - that in part at least, i hope you will all agree, is based on some level of expextation that someone dear to you is able to come by, and hold out all pain, and misery from you, to protect you.
we can, of course, be mindful of the delicate balance of over depending and simply looking up to someone.
& with this view in mind, having no expectations and no hopes and no fairth is counter intuitive to all the energy we spend on relationships and their genuineness.