I was talking to a friend of mine a few days ago and she mentioned a saying in Urdu. Translated, it means something like how whether or not a couple will have children depends on the man’s “quismat”(spelling?), and whether or not a couple will have money depends on the woman’s. Basically the point she was making was that if a woman isn’t supposed to have money in her future, the man she marries will somehow lose whatever wealth he has, if any. My friend said it’s just something her mother says…what I’m wondering about is that does this saying have any basis in Islam, or is it just another one of those desi cultural sayings.
definitely nothing to do with islam for sure…
just another “hindu-culture-transfered-saying” … 
nothing else …
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*Originally posted by Gadha: *
definitely nothing to do with islam for sure...
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ditto....
just another dehaat-ki-bhorryon-wali-baat.....
Agreed with Gadha :)
Ditto Gadha..
Never heard of it before.
I think that this statement is wisdom derived from knowledge gone off a bit in the wrong direction. Replace qismat (good luck) with Qadar (the will of Allah) and it all makes sense.
If a man is destined by Allah never to have any children, then no matter how many times he marries, over and over again, he will never have children - so he should be content with the will of Allah.
Similarly if a woman destined by Allah to live a poor life, then no matter how many times she divorces and looks for a "better" man she will still remain poor, so she too should be content with the will of Allah.
But always remember that your taqdeer/qadar is determined by Allah alone, not by your spouse or anything else.
gadha said it right. we muslims have soo much stuff kinda inherited from hindus tat we think its really something got to do with the muslims. but its not.