Rejection

Lifestyle Relationships
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How to deal with it? Its a very bitter pill to swallow and it leaves your self-esteem in the crator. Its especially difficult when you do not know why the other person has cut off ties. You enquire but they choose to ignore. They choose to pretend you never existed.The nit-picking of whys leaves you always insecure because you dont know why :frowning:

Please do not respond by saying maybe they are not worth you because that is **not **the issue here!

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just remind yourself that your hot and amazing. just because something didnt work out is not a reflection on you. do you really need that person in order to become something great/reach your potential, or be happy?! or are you strong enough to be your great self without them.

i know you have probably heard this already, but i really do believe that things are meant to be. so if you are meant to be with a certain individual, things with anyone else will just not work out .. only Allah knows who is your future.

i know you said not the reply saying the person isnt worth your time... but i cant help but to point out that the fact that the person is not even responding and giving you the respect to respond to your inquiry's is a reflection of their character
(or lack thereof)

just be patient, iA everything will work out for you.

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Take some dough and roll it out into a naqsha of him. Take some pins and everytime a (futile) why pops into your brain, jab a pin into the he-dough. take an especially thick, mean pin and jab hard into the heart-spot and twist the pin so it breaks off into the dough.Yes love, voodoo is very therapeutic :smokin:

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the more you think about it, the more worked up you will get, best thing to do is forget! mov on, spend time with close family friends etc. and get your mind of him,

and if it makes you feel better then make fun of him in your head,
have you seen "jab we met" when kareena phones up her X bf, and swears the worlds worst swears :D if it make you feel better then go ahead and try:)

in time you will realize he wasnt the one for you.

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Re: Rejection

a guy rejected me and trust me it was the best thing that happened to me.

~*~ Time Pass June 2012 ~*~
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it's hard but i believe you need to practice saying to your self that it is their loss not yours,this way you will feel much better because you know that you are a better person and can find a good person who will treat you right.and you should always remember that there is always something better waiting for you and it happens for a good reason.

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idk i still waste too much time wondering WHY...it happened so many times and i still dont know. so once u figure it out tell me the secret as well!

~*~ Time Pass June 2012 ~*~
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u deal with it becuz they dint feel the same way as u did...its not their wrong doing jus coz they said no! think about it...if u dint like someone in tht sorta way wud u really say yeah sure y not? nope u wud be the same...so deal with it in a mature manner...and maybe learn frm the situation...its not tht it was somethin wrong with u...its jus dint click with the other person the way it did to u...so dnt beat urself over it...jus move on with ur life...im sure its not the end of the world...

may ALLAH guid us all AMEEN

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Ok they may not worth you, but there can be one hundred and one reasons for someone to reject you, or anyone, to be very frank. Its good if we are told the reason, but maybe that would be more hurting. So i guess its because of this, that the other person tends to ignore us, so that they dont have to be embarrassed and feel bad since they were the ones to reject. The best way, however, is to let it go, feel normal, leave the regrets and questions to the other person, and just respect them for their decisions, than wasting yourself away over the questions noone might have answer to.

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sometimes individuals in a relationship grow apart instead of growing together. maybe at some point he has stopped growing with you and leaned towards different dreams and aspirations. growing is a natural process and maybe he cant oppose his natural inclinations and maybe he doesnt know how to handle it any better.
things arent always right or wrong...

just take a lil time out to hurt and to cry the hurt out. i would recommend it actually. but please do take good care of yourself and know that it is not the end of the world (no matter how intense the relo has been). If it had been meant to, Allah would have blessed it with success. Very often, with time, you will realise that failures are actually a blessing in disguise!

Spend time with family and friends, invest in new hobbies, read books, , make silly faces in mirror, buy smethng for a li'l one and revel in their delight, hang a punching bag in ur room with his name on it :D.
and PRAY. Its the best salvation.
and remember 'This too, shall pass'.

How Well Do You Know Your Dost ~~~STA & Muqawwee~~
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You sickooooooooo :smack:

Btw in my opinion rejection is good. It makes you stronger and humble.

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[quote=“NaMaan, post:108, topic:184242”]

You sickooooooooo :smack:quote]

see Nammi, hell hath no fury like a woman scorned :hoonh:

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^^ :eek:

Crazy women, that is why hell will be full of them :vivo:

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Waqt k kia hai GuzaRta hai GuzaR ja'aY Ga ....

How Well Do You Know Your Dost ~~~STA & Muqawwee~~
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Yes rejection is hard to swallow but my only advice which is short sweet and simple would be that time heals all and there's not much one can do it about it buddy.

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unknownme: do you know that even attractive people get rejected? YES! it is true. because everyone does not see things the same. everyone has different ideas of what they find physically attractive mentally attractive etc etc

there is NO SENSE in you taking this personally. even models get rejected by different campaigns ALL the TIME! they even talk about how it si hard to swallow but that when they realize it is not about a khraabie in them but it is just about what fits the campaign. so think the same thing about people. different things fit different people.

and think about this to make yourself feel better. i know of personally of pretty girls who have got rejected by guys who they were interested in whereas other guys actively persued them. also attractive females in the entertainment industry get used abused and duped and sometimes treated bad for things like money or because they are just used as a time-pass.

think about it. ANYONE can get rejected. some people still call aishwariya things like kaali maasi and rani mukherjee bengali nepali maasi even though lots of other people think very highly of them. does it affect them? NO! do they care? NO!

so why do you?

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It's because the other person is inherently, deep down, a jerk. And jerks don't need any reason for acting like jerks. Searching for a reason is pointless when the truth is that the other person simply is a soulless, near-empty hulk filled with nothing but jerkiness.

Any other opinion you ever held of them was just an illusion they wanted you to see. Which adds to their jerkiness.

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i completely agree with you on this..
and i believe you should never let such a person to have any impact on your life,because,such a person is just selfish,and do not care even if his/her behaviour is going to impact and hurt others.

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Re: Rejection

join a matrimonial site

How Well Do You Know Your Dost ~~~STA & Muqawwee~~
How Well Do You Know Your Dost ~~~STA & Muqawwee~~
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Im of the opinion that nothing happens in this world without a reason behind it. Allah controls all of it.

Your rejection can mean one thing: You two were not good for each other. Meaning, on your own you are a great person and so is the concerned party BUT together you are not a good mix. Lots of things can happen to teach us this lesson: broken engageements, divorces, REJECTION, etc. Allah uses all kinds of methods to get his point across...some need a crystal clear message and some can understand through a sign or signal.

Think of it as someone looking out for you and saving you and the other person from what could have been a very situation.