one of my aunt was looking for a bahu few days back.. i just intereupted in middle of a conversation and told them about a girl.. there was some silence then she said that her sister had already *rejected *the girl few months back for her son! Now during match making one considers so many different issues .. how her sisters not liking or matching the said girl had to do anything with other sisters sons marriage.. is there any taboo of not marrying someone who had been rejected by some one known?
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theres no set rule abt this i guess hmm i guess soch apni apni
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not really.. i dont know. i know lot of ppl in the family who were 'rejected' ( it seems such harsh word) by someone but still got married to another person in the same family.
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Its the sibling competition..."Sada thukyan chaat laya"? How can a girl who was rejected by her sister be good enough for her son? Afterall her son is better than her sister's son. I love these little daqanossi ravyat.
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i think its happened. i think the worst is were the rejected the middle sister cus she was to close in age to the guy. so the took the youngest sister.
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^ wtf is “too close in age” ?? 
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many people in pakistan believe that the girl should be at least 4-5 years older than the guy. i think it is the stupidest thing ever, age doesnt really matter. my grandpa was suppose to marry my grandmas older sister but it didnt work out so he got married to my grandma instead.
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You mean 4-5 years younger right?
It really depends on the age of the two people. A 5-, even 10-year difference is no big deal if they’re at least 21 and up. But 15-20 years age differnece is just :yukh:
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Sara - 5 or 10 between mature adults, yes, but when the guy is an adult and the girl is a child it is a big deal. *You know this, of course :) *
On an aside, what about Demi and Ashton? There is at least 20yr difference but they seem to be great together.
I don't know, I always say if there is love what is age. What happens between consenting adults shouldn't be anyone else's business. I know a guy who is in his 20's and LOVES old women (talking 45+). Not my cup of tea, but it makes him happy and the woman he is with.
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45 is not old 
I mentioned my cutoff age, 21.
And ur forgetting we’re talking about desis here. Remember, there is no such thing as consenting adults doing thier own thing in our world 
Wat ur talkin bout, Ashton and Demi, could never happen in Pakistan. Hell a woman will get rejected if she’s not young enough for the guy 
But the opposite will always hold true… there will always be an 18 year old girl marrying a 30/40 year old becoz of family pressure…
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Actually the guy I mentioned who likes older women is a desi and now that you mention it, there was a woman he wanted to marry in Pakistan and his mother rejected her because she was too old. So, he came here and married an older lady here.
So, yes Dorothy, there is a life beyond Pakistan mommies and aunties :D
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:-|
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Dorothy? :-|
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Speaking of Dorothys Minah, I don't think Hollywood flings are the best examples of married couples.
But then you knew that, right? :)
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yeah, i did, but was trying to find an example everyone knew about, that's all
Sarah - I was teasing, you know I love you :)
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back to the topic, like Kaleem said, it's all about ego in pakiland and it is very rare that anyone would marry off their child to someone who had been "rejected" and that too by someone else in the family
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What's up with desis and putting down their females.
I don't think desis have nothing better to do than to BS about their females.
Poor lady is now labelled as a reject in the family.
If a desi female stays out late at work, she's probably labelled as 'baygherat, 'bayhaya' or someone with a lose character.
Desi females raised abroad are labelled as 'awara' or 'azad-khayal'.
I honestly wonder if any of this non-sense is ever going to end. I hope the next/new generation wouldn't be following in their elders' footsteps.
Deplorable!
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Yeah Sadiyah it is disgusting. I get those own gaaliyan from my mom when I tell her I have to take a 8 PM class 
Minah, i know u were joking 
But I still dont’ get Dorothy? 
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i know it is sad. my dad once said that pakistani aunties love to judge other people, gossip, and make other folks’ live hell because they dont have a job and sit home all day with nothing to do(his way of telling me to work when im older). so they just insult people because they have nothing better to do. i think they are jealous of the women because they have more freedom so they make up crap about them so no one will marry them.
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I didnt want to get married to one of my cousin(mamoo daughter), and this cousin in craze to get married to same family ended up marrying only other male cousin(my taya’a beta), who was already married, + 15 years older than her! he then divorced the first wife who i like very much as bhabi.
we are only two male cousins in my father’s side of the family.
isnt that crazy??
and my taya’s beta got married to the cousin who in your words ‘rejected’ by me. though i just didnt get married to her cause i think we are not compatible and thats so true.