Re: Rejected for being a “punjabi”
Actually no. Apart from maybe one, none of the discrimination mentioned are ‘okay’, and we had seen countless threads here on this forum bashing such practices and attitude behind. If someone wants to speak for themselves here, only that’s okay. So I refuse to believe that discriminatory and bigotry shown towards Punjabis are ‘okay’ by default just because we all 'discriminate against in one way or another.
Yes, I maintain that rejecting someone - especially when they satisfy all other criteria - after some early interaction and followed on realisation that other cultural difference are just too big and irreconcilable is the most reasonable thing to do. Instead shortlisting and then totally discarding someone because your parents reminded you of some racist preconceived notions they hold about certain ethnicity. People (and especially Punjabis in this case) are more than just those stupid ‘Pubjabis are loud, Pubjabis are paindoo’ stereotype which I see hurled around so casually in some circles. I’m not some mad peace and earth loving hippie who’s going to suggest that people should marry people with totally different compatibility levels just to make some sort of statement for so called open-mindness. That’s insane, but at the same time, there has be a better way of judging people’s characters instead of holding on to age old stereotypes.
Frankly speaking, PCG has been on the receiving end where people just assumed bunch of things about her character because she belonged to a certain group while in fact majority of those traits and practices were not part of her life. Her words on such racist stereotyping holds more far more weight.