Rejected for being a "punjabi"

[Sehrysh]

Re: Rejected for being a “punjabi”

@Jolie

I agree with PCG.

It’s understandable to reject someone from a different background after interacting them and realising that differences are just too wide and uncompromising. But to simply say no to someone (after showing some interest) because you found out about their ethnicity and assumed bunch of ridiculous notions is just plain old bigotry. The OP should consider herself lucky that she didn’t marry into that racist family.

It is one thing to get rejected for the factors you have control over or made them by choice i.e education, profession, weight etc then reject people for things they have no control over, i.e ethnicity, caste.

PS: Funky Chicken, maybe you should tell the match maker to make people aware of ethnicity to avoid future waste of food and time.

Quite frankly anytime a person says no to another person without doing them the courtesy of meeting them, it’s bigotry or discrimination of a kind, whether that be based on education, appearance, class, ethnicity, height, etc.

Yet, for some reason, some acts of discrimination are considered more acceptable than others. When a guy says he will only marry a girl who is 22 or younger, we say that’s okay. When a girl insists that she will only consider a rishta from a Master’s educated man, that’s okay. When a mother says she wants a gori-chitti larki, that’s okay. When the father says that they will only marry within their zaat-biradari, that’s okay…

Point being - people will decline a rishta for any number of reasons and we may not like it and we may consider it to be closed-minded of the other person - but it is their right. And until everyone, everywhere (including myself) becomes more open-minded and doesn’t measure the other person based on anything more than character, we’re all bigots of a sort since any one of us can oversome points of incompatibility with compromise.