Re: Rejected for being a “punjabi”
Allah asks a lot of us but we don’t really focus on those things in reality do we? Attraction may be minor or major - its STILL a factor. It STILL plays a part. Some will look beyond physical features and find a person’s inner beauty. Kudos to them. But some find chemistry and attraction tied to background. This does not mean Punjabis and Urdu speakers cannot get along…it means some will choose not to marry into the other and that’s that. Its pure comfort. Is it racist? About as racist as rejecting someone for being bald or having 6 toes or having an annoying mole on their nose.
And here’s something to consider: I have been through this damn rishta scene for years…since age 15. I hated it when my mom had people come over, eat our food, waste our entire evening and make me run around with a chai trolley ONLY to find out at the end that this was not going to work for whatever reason. So, the fact that they didn’t come over is a good thing. They felt bad about wasting the OP’s time when it was not going to work from their end regardless.