Do you ever end up regret spending an invaluable amount of time on someone/something while you should really be preparing for things in life that you control. Its happened to me over and over. There is someone in my life that gets back to me every six months or after a year and i end up spending two-three months being extremely involved with the person. However, as its turned out this time is usually wasted because i always come to the same conclusion (end it) and then i stop devoting all my time to this person…however by then its too late..i’ve wasted important months that should’ve devoted to another task…
sometimes i think its a curse, to distract me from being successful. i’m just writing this because i do think i’ve finally learned but i’ve wasted some really important time and i regret it.
time passed was important.........time coming is critical.....focus on that.
as long as you learned something from the past, you have not wasted anything.......imagine the number of people that go through life and learn nothing......you are miles ahead of them.
yah i felt that too a few times in my life but then i got involved in smtng far more imp..lol, everyone other than my fam and close friends became really unimportant to me then. The fact that I am grateful that God helped me find smtng purposeful helps me overcome that regret. I just really hope it stays that way and i dont get distracted.
i know many people who are stuck in this or a similar cycle and i know will they will never escape from it. Its part of their personality. If you can break the cycle you wil be better for it, I wish you do so as you seem like you realise it unlike the people i know.
It happens, that experience makes you who you are. You had meet that person, you had go through the motions, you had realise what a complete so and so they were.
That's life. These experiences shape you. It's up to you to make a positive from a negative.
Sometimes we need to make a mistake a few times before we learn a valuable lesson. And maybe each time we commit the mistake, the experience teaches us something new. Your mistakes (especially when you learn from them) can really strengthen you as a person. They can even provide you with a deeper insight and understanding about yourself and about human nature that you might not have had before. Maybe there were some good things about the experience as well...things you might appreciate or be grateful for.
I can understand what you're saying...and I've felt that way before myself. But I also think that sometimes we can waste time in worse ways that are not as painful...but don't teach us anything nor do they develop your character, if that makes sense.
Think about the goals that you seriously want to achieve. Break them down into more shorter/achievable steps.