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you are right. good things probably wont happen. So whats the point in carrying on. Lethal injection hurts the least.
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Do not regret. There are plenty of reasons for everyone to mourn.
Take it as your mistake and will of God. Learn a lesson or two from each event and try never to repeat them again.
Do 'hasaanaat' prayer. Rabbana Ataina Fidduniya hasanat.......... and leave it on God.
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Yeah I've made alot of not so smart decisions inthe last few years. WIsh I could undo them.
I wish I had a time machine so I could fix some of the mistakes i've made in the past.
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If i had a time machine the only thing I'd do is go back and invest money. Other than that I won't change a thing.
PS: Actually, come to think of it, I might not even do that, cuz then I won't be me.
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If i had a time machine the only thing I'd do is go back and invest money. Other than that I won't change a thing.
PS: Actually, come to think of it, I might not even do that, cuz then I won't be me.
are you saying that you haven't made any mistakes in the past or that you are who you are today because of the mistakes you've made and you've learned from them?
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Oh, I've made my share of mistakes, some of which I keep on making as I go and enjoy them. But its the latter of ur two options. Good or bad, I am who I am.
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Yeah, it sucks balls.How you can turn something so good into something that you're just going to sit and think about, cry, mope and wonder what things could have been. I've already turned to the bottle, I think I need a higher dose.
the bottle won't really solve your problem it'll just give you a major hangover in the morning in addition to the unsolved problem so sober up :) and stay close to your good friends.
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Life's so crazy. One night you go to sleep smiling, the next morning you wake up depressed as ever. You've just realized all that is wrong with your life. You feel like you just wanna run away from everything, everyone, and everywhere. The urge to be somewhere so far away where you can just sit, and shed some tears and lighten the load of your soul. It becomes so difficult to connect with Almighty when there is so much going on, and waiting for that right time just never seems to occur. BY this time you have done so much wrong, sometimes in the company of bad friends that opportunities don't ever come by anymore. You're not even sure if the worldly affairs need concern you; sometimes you feel the life of wilderness and just worship is one last hope you have of making it better in the afterlife. Yet you manage to put a smile on your face and invalidate the worries of life only because depression is not the solution to anything. You still wait for that hope to come get you, you still wait for that opportunity to knock so eagerly, you keep telling yourself no longer will I be out of the league of those that have got it all. Will you better yourself at last or will the false hope finally give way to your permanent departing...........thus is destiny, while we don't know where it leads, we have to strive to make it do the slight curve, that little change in motion that could ultimately change our lives, for destiny was made to be conquered and if you don't conquer it, i will overshadow you.
I'm much like a spyder, i put my effort into every web i make, a soft wind comes and breaks it, so i go on making another and another in the hope that one day someone will recognize it as an intelligent effort and praise it, thus elevating my level to that of a beloved creature in the eyes of my Lord.
When i have succeeded at last, i look back and realize that my life's been a struggle all along. In the naiveness, i took the longer route to get where i am, my mistakes led me off the right path, till the repentance shone like a bright sign asking me to re-merge onto the path that awaits me, this moment was the one where i took control of my destiny and that one right thing gave way to my destiny's motion and here i am today. Happier than before, more grateful than i could ever be that Lord has heard my pleas, i'm way more humble and intelligent to my surroundings now. Now, i wish to be a better son, a better brother, a better fellowman, and a better servant. I live to be a better me, my past still haunts me, but i have chosen to turn that pitch black hopelessness into a slight grey with whatever good i've done so far. If i keep at it, it'll turn bright pretty soon. I have to keep trying, YOU have to keep doing the right thing because you don't dont know which one of these right things will be the one to change your destiny and bring you back on track.
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^^ Damn, now I'm depressed
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Cheer up pal! keep that 'one right' in mind! ;)
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I have so many regrets to deal with and I remember each and everyone in detail and sometimes it just drives me nuts. Opportunities that I had , good opportunities but I just blew them every single time.I'm my own sabotage in a way , I don't know why. Maybe I just love pain, a sadistic masochist. I think I should just stop believing that good things will happen to me on their own and go about and make something happen. I'm just ranting, depressed with life, bla bla.
I need a shrink.
Yaar, don't worry. Sh*t happens.
You can't change the past. And if you keep worrying about it, you'll end up sabotaging your future. You only have now to live anyway. Who knows if you (or me) have the next hour to live? I know it's very easy to say, but yaar it's one of the most important factors in being happy.
Also. If you want to change your life. You can!!! Never accept anything you don't want in your life. Worries don't solve problems. Going out and finding a solution is a far better remedy than years of worrying.
Maaf, yaar, you probably think I'm preaching, but please don't lose hope. Insha-Allah whatever problem you have will soon be solved.
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Often regrets are the best choices we made in that given scenario, I always wonder if given back in same span of time with same opportunities, we will commit the mistakes again , yea same mistakes you people call regrets !
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mosinaf: Regrets are part of life. You are doing the right thing by expressing it. First you have to realize the guilt than confront it. If it is a burden than relief yourself, if it is a bad relationship than break free. Important thing is what you learned from it and what you need to do next time to avoid the same situation.
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"jo hota hain achey ke liyey hota hain".
Now search for the 'acha', in these new circumstances.
If bankrupt, move overseas.
If divorced, think of the daily hell from your ex., and the new freedom you have gained.
If unhappy in your job - move on to a new job.
If sick, think that your body was nearing a breakdown and God has forced you to slow down & rest.
"Hey Allah (Bhagwan) meri muskilo ko door kar dey, mei our bardash nahi kar sakta" In reality your mushkiley become worse --but!! your burdash goes up. This is life.
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Qadr
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Thanks everybody for your responses.I've always been a whiny little ***** and that's never going to change I guess and if anything I'm going to get more whiny since now I've lost all hope of trying to make things right. Just have to bring myself to move on from this somehow but my mind and heart are in conflict.If I knew how to I wouldn't whine, I wouldn't cry, I'd simply move on.How do you move on from something that's been engrained into your very being and every thought process revolves around it.It hurts waking up every morning and telling yourself that it was YOUR FAULT this happened and having to live with that till whenever your time comes.Why couldn't I see it, why couldn't I act upon it when it mattered the most. Haha, funny thing is, I'd be telling any other guy in my position that it's no use crying over spilt milk and to live with the decisions you make but NO, you can't, you just ****ing can't live with the bad painful decisions. It hurts too much and eats you on the inside like a turmite just making you hollow day after day.
I wish I was stronger mentally and not this emotional wreck.I'm done beating around this, moderators can you please lock this thread to further replies.
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^dude just smoke a joint, watch dave chappelle and call it a new beginning.....
u can't UNDO what's been DONE already...just move from here and the farther u go, the less of the bad past u'll see till u can't even see it anymore...
Best of luck with everything! u know how they say 'Life's a *****, depending on how u treat her'......take care of shhh from this point on and u'll be a one happy camper
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mosinaf- phele batana tha 
main itni achi achi serious baatain kisi or ko likh deti 
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mosinaf: Look around youself - you will see blind people, disabled persons, paraplegic persons, disfigured persons, beggers, drug addicts - have you ever thought they may have been normal people - till one day they had a misfortune.
Think of your loved ones who are suffering with you.
Get a grip of yourself and move on.