Regret Talking about the Ex?

[yourfriend]

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...I've also come across folks that will fabricate and or exaggerate things so that they come across as the "victim" rather than represent at least a fair if not completely accurate account of what happened. (Karma did bite one such person in the behind though cuz her accusation of the guy was very quickly debunked when he remarried.)

i dont know what kind of accusations you are talking about but dont you think people put much more efforts in their second marriages as compared to the first one? ....2nd time they really wanna make it work and try their best not the make the same mistakes as they did the first time....

[TLK]

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@Mirch

The same rule goes about you current boss , do not badmouth him to anybody , period. If you have anything talk to HR only.

Oh badmouthing your current boss is like shooting yourself in the foot

@Sehrysh

I agree with you. No one wants to hear about negativity about someone else - it just makes you sound petty and vindictive. I think the key is not to volunteer information and not to malign someone else. But, will I lie to hide someone’s flaws, then no - I won’t do that.
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No one expect us to lie, but you can always come up with a diplomatic answer. And btw, would not it be geehbat anyways to share someones weakness behind his back to someone else? Gheebat is only allowed in 3 cases (more on that, later). Talking to your prospect rishta about your ex is not one of those situations.

@Monk

boss those two situations are too remote. They are like light years away from each other.
Your post reminded me of redness and new redness(Sehrysh).
Its like you haven’t seen a min of life out of the books. Text book those are.

Bad influence for geeky kids…

I write my own text books.

[Mirch]

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Oh badmouthing your current boss is like shooting yourself in the foot :D .

I know I have seen that happening. People do not realize that nobody is to be trusted in workplace they open their mouth and the consequences are quite devastating.

[Muzna]

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I'll be honest, my closest friends get the entire rundown of the situation - but it's because they're my friends and I need them to vent to. It's great some people can keep it all inside, but for me closure and the ability to move on to indifference comes from talking it out with someone - koi'ee to pursanay haal hona chahiyay.

totally understandable.......and this situation is a bit different because you are talking about "rishtay"......these are prospects and don't necessarily fall into the category of either SO or relation; they are not someone that you are intimately involved with or spent years and years with..

and yes...we do need someone to share with.....close friends are those that keep your secret....I was referring a bit more to those situations where some internal matter regarding the relationship is shared with all and sundry......

i dont know what kind of accusations you are talking about but dont you think people put much more efforts in their second marriages as compared to the first one? ....2nd time they really wanna make it work and try their best not the make the same mistakes as they did the first time....

yes....you would think that people make a greater effort....provided they have learned something from the relationship that failed......right? what if they believe that they other was at fault and they were the victim?

the reference that I made was an isolated one but sticks in my mind so it came out......it had to do with a physiological condition and could not have been altered with mere effort.....

[Reha]

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some great advice here.....

there are many that feel they can share stuff with their "close" friends........and to some degree I will agree with that......but honestly the best advice per my experience is to keep things to yourself.

I so agree with this.

You know...after my divorce I felt like the whole world would blame me and I wanted to just tell people my side of the story.

But I didn't. I couldn't. It was hard and I kept wishing I would just open my mouth but I never had the guts to respond back to people.

Now (when it doesn't matter anymore) I think it was best. There are many people out there who still don't even know what happened but its much better this way. Why air dirty laundry? Who does it really embarrass?

[BombShellBabe]

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Ex is end of chapter, stopping digging things from the graveyard. Excuse me, I don't know what does ex means... Honey, there has never been any guy in my life. Were you expecting another answer? I am starting my beginning with you... You got me thinking. How many girls came in your life in the past?

[Xtron]

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Well i still wish and my ex girlfriend very best. I don't like to talk about negative stuff in a person. Except couple of times i admit i have probably badmouthed about her with my buddies. And here on gs as well i guess. But whatever i have said..i never exaggerated. She was good person but stuff between us didn't workout. We weren't meant to be togetha afta long time in relationship.