serious questions:
how do you refill love in a relationship, endlessly?
who goes after whome and tries to win over once again?
more severe questions:
does year upon year, cause lack of interest?
what to do, when even after some time, you dont fully understand your partner?
thoughts?
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for endless love u've to be honest with yr relationship, and devote everything for the one u love , which takes away "if"s and "but"s and all sort of doubts if there exist any
Avoid comparison with others otherwise u'll come across certain factors with yr partner lacks from others and may lead to heartbreaks, or lack of interest .
In case of lack of understanding , use the best weapon of all = dialogue
"does year upon year, cause lack of interest?"
I would say No to that.
Others might disagree with me on this one but I do think that it doesnt matter how many kids you and how long u've been married for you still need to or at least try to look good for your partner. Meaning staying fit and dressing up for them and all. Mostly I've noticed our desi girls turn into aunties right after having one baby. And the guy needs to stay fit as well. Just by doing that you'll feel young at heart and happier.
Also, doing little things for each other, calling each other nicknames and joking around and stuff makes a big difference as well.
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Talking to eachother.
Going out separately and together.
Joke and laugh alot, dont take stuff too seriously.
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Refill love?
Its the small things that count. Saying I love you once in awhile, saying thank you, telling them how much you appreciate them, exchanging small gifts at times, leaving notes in their wallets(hehe I am guilty of that), laughing at inside jokes only you 2 share, etc etc the list could go on!
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never let it get to that point that you dont recognize the other.
keep communication open, and love one another like the day u first met, or got married :) marriage is a tree taht needs constant care and attention..
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^ But u also need "time out" from eachother.
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a good partner is like constant replenishable need, a want, or an addiction of good kind. someone with out whome staying & carrying out every day tasks will seem boring.
presence of a spouse can lead to a sense of perfect support, security & respect as well as setting of personal goals, in life, at a higher bar.
from taking care of how you look, to how you feel & what you would want to feel. think, speak, independently and at the same time, with the support of your spouse, must be a very rewarding & thrilling feeling.
the issue is: going through ups and downs of life at work, with your families, decisions about purchase of a property, loss in business, a move or split due to work obligation, or after a child or two, or a loss of a child, a health condition that unexpectedly takes one on - all are times, when reaffirming the original love, care
& regard for each other is warranted.
how do people keep that coming, give it & receive it with dignity, while all along, feeling blessed for the same?
the thoughts shared in the responses, are all a great mix of perspectives.