Red Flags

[diamond321]

Re: Red Flags

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in addition to what everyone else said:

1) making excuses
2) making commitments, not following through and then making excuses
3) shouting at his/her younger (or even older) sisters
4) a cousin sis or someone else (a female) telling you that he has hit them
5) his treatment of those less fortunate than himself (i.e. the maid that works at his house or the waiter that serves him his food at the restaurant or the cab driver)

Those are very important red-flags and I ignored them and then paid a heavy price for it. Another things I would add is back biting / gheebat , any person who is doing this in front you about others will be doing this against you in front of others. Allah has forbidden gheebat just keep that in mind and no decent person would defame or would do gheebat unnecessarily or just for zaban ka chaska. Sooner or late you will also become their target and it’s poisonous for a husband wife relationship or your relationship with your inlaws.

One more thing do try to see how they are behaving or keeping their other bahus (if any)