While responding to Barfi’s thread “Desis in Denial”…it got me thinking as to what signs during the ristha process (it could be comments, excuses, behaviors, etc) indicate red flags?
I know that one has the responsibility to do a thorough investigation to the best of their ability…and I can even understand that some people may be good actors and you may not find out about things until after the wedding. (Yes, I know that you don’t really know someone well until you start living with them). But I’ve also observed that it can be hard to suppress negative traits and sometimes people are guilty of deliberately making excuses for a person when it’s very obvious to them that the situation is toxic. I remember hearing that you should beware a rishta that is wishy-washy and one that pressures for a committment to take place soon. I know of two cases where the latter could be seen as indication of trouble down the road, though I also understand that there are exceptions. So…what are some red flags or things to watch out for?