I had a miscarriage this week. Baby was 7 weeks old. I had gone for an ultrasound and there was no heartbeat. This was to have been our first baby..
Emotionally I’m a wreck. I don’t trust myself to be around people because I never know when I’ll burst into tears. I’m sort of just drifting through the day. Has anyone been in this situation before? How did you deal with the depression? How hard is it to get pregnant again?
I had a few blood tests and got my hormone levels checked - the Dr says there is nothing wrong with me and this was just one of those things.
Aahww lucy!! Inshallah Allah swt will give you the strength to cope with your loss...
Inshallah allah will give a new khush khabri soon! And allah pak new anai wali khushi ko aap key naseeb karrey....sehat wali aulad ata farmaye!
Ameen!!
Oh Lucy, I went through the same, no heartbeat, miscarried at 11 weeks. :( I went about the aftermath in the wrong way so I will tell you to do the opposite: take time off and rest as much as you can. Even if you feel fine physically, you still need some days/weeks to recuperate. If you don't feel like being around people, don't force yoursel. Whatever you're going through is normal; don't let anyone make you feel abnormal or ungrateful for being sad. As for the depression, yes it does go away. You CAN get pregnant, physically after 6-8 weeks, emotionally, however long you want to wait.
I am really sorry for your loss Lucy, it may seem very difficult to deal with at the moment please be brave and inshallah I pray that Allah gives you the strength to deal with this loss .
i went through the same wid my 1st preg: but thn after 5 months i gt pregnant again Alhumdulillah.
So i knw its depressing at the moment but keep faith in Allah SWT. He ll bless u soon InshAllah.
I miscarried at 8 weeks last October. It was devastating! I had already become so attached to the baby :(
Give yourself some time, it will all get better. Think of it as this way, there had to be something wrong with the pregnancy and fetus .. the body has it's way of knowing. It was bound to happen. And iA better things are coming your way!
I am 21 weeks pregnant now alhamdulilah!
It just broke my heart reading what you went through. thousands of hugs for you if they can help you feel better. Wendy was right, body has its own way of knowing. Maybe this had to happen for the better. I hope you will come back to your normal self soon and in sha Allah you will conceive sooner than soon, all our prayers with you.
Sorry to hear about your loss Lucy. InshAllah Allah will bless you with a healthy happy baby very soon :) I went through the same this January, miscarried at 9 wks. I know what you're going through because I started avoiding people too- specially because of the fact that they, out of goodwill, want to sympathize with you and at that point you dont want anyones sympathy. I'd suggest you keep meeting people, socialize, and basically do whatever you can to keep yourself busy. I know its tough, but believe me, if you're free, you'd keep thinking about it. Allah has behtari in whatever He does, and maybe this was not the right time..Allah knows best...Just eat healthy, pray, keep yourself busy and for anything you need or whenever you wanna talk...we are all here for you...takecare! :)
Thank you very much ladies. I'm feeling more hopeful after reading about your experiences. Not 100% there yet, but I went back to work today and have survived the day without bursting into tears :) Going to take it one day at a time.
Thanks Hmmna. Support, sort of. Hubby has been wonderful, we’ve grown much closer after this experience. We don’t have any family in the US, but my MIL, mom and sister have been very very supportive over the phone. I haven’t told my friends here because I just want to put it behind me. If I tell a lot of people it’s going to linger and I don’t feel like I can deal with the pity.. just want things to be as normal as possible.
