Reason to divorce?

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@AmorAmor

People place too much importance on rukhsuti, and in certain cases it comes back to slap them in the face. Prime example here.

Once a nikah is done you are legally married in Islam and there is no reason for husband and wife to be apart (except certain instances). Why has it taken 4 years to get to the rukhsuti stage? How much communication have they had in that time? Has he had the chance to get to know her? What qualities did he see in her before nikkah that led to him agreeing to marry her?

You say they think differently and have nothing in common - those are key foundations to a good relationship. If you don’t have communications and you aren’t singing from the same page in ya songbook than you are very likely to come across marital issues.

Only he knows what is best for him. Does he go ahead and potentially end up having a great marriage with a girl who he will grow to love dearly (although if he doesn’t love her after 4 years how likely this is, is debatable.) or does he give up and move on and potentially find someone else who is right for him who he is more compatible with and whom he feels he can have a successful relationship with? On the other hand he could give up on her and later realise he has given away what could have been an amazing marriage. He may end up finalising the nikah and then realising that his doubts were in fact correct and he should have followed his heart.

He has one life. He has to make a decision that will make him happy. There will be people that are hurt by his actions, but ultimately his sanity is more important than that. If he doesn’t feel that he has any feelings towards her, he shouldn’t be forced.

His experiences with his parents will affect every relationship he has in life. Fact. Because that is all he has seen while growing up. He needs to analyse what he wants from life and his relationships with others, and whether he will let his parents history affect what he wants for himself.

when I Read this line I felt that the girl whom he is nikahfied too is no less than a tissue paper !!!

We don’t get married and divorced just on mere assumptions. There is someone’s life involved , someone’s future at stake …he was idiot enough to say YES in a nikah and took a girl in a nikah without even thinking that if he wants to actually spend the rest of his life with that girl or not.

We have to take responsibility of our actions , he did nikah now he should take responsibility of it. 4 years is a long time … I don’t know what is the state of his mind or his mental abilities but definitely it was a long enough time to even bond with an animal. Personally I don’t feel he is a balanced individual. She is not a toy she is a living and breathing individual and yes I’d say if he divorce her she should better take 4 years maintenance from him plus alimony and if they are foriegn citizens she should take whatever is available to her by the law of that country. This dude should not be spared. He will think a 100 times before he will do nikah again.