Even if he were to marry some other girl (who is not a cousin)…what guarantee does he have that she’ll either turn out OR not turn out like his mother???
Even if he were to have a love marriage…being in a marriage (where you actuallyhave to live with the other person) is much different than just being in the relationship phase.
You don’t really know a person unless you live with them…and that’s a risk that he’ll have to take no matter which girl he marries. Although…you can get to know your partner before marriage to see if you’re compatible. But…if he already knows and has observed that she and him are NOT compatible…then why is he still in a relationship with her? Why doesn’t he end it??? Is it because she’s his “cousin” and he doesn’t want to upset family members??? If that was the case, then he should have told his parents in the beginning that he will get to know the girl…but won’t agree to marry her unless he finds her compatible. That way, if they don’t click…he wouldn’t prefer it…and it would be fine because he would make that clear to everyone in the beginnning.
He goofed up…didn’t think it through carefully…(sure, fear may be a reason here)…and now he wants to call it quits…??? Shoulda thought about the compatibility before agreeing to a Nikkah…because ending it would carry greater consequences for her than for him.
Rolls eyes…at the spinelessness of some desi guys.