I have just realised the only reason I was with my ex and yearned for him; was because I only wanted to be with him because I wanted attention and LOTS of it!!
Truthfully, I was never attracted to him.
When I first met him I thought to myself, I would never give you a second look
But when the compliments came flowing, I fell for that.
I miss the compliments, committment, stroking my ego etc but not him really
I want it to come from someone else - someone better.
I broke up with him and he contacted me again asking to give it another chance.
He would make a great husband etc but perhaps I should use the fact he likes me more, than I like him, to my advantage.
I can relate. In the end, we end up harming ourselves and them.... and its not fair to either party.
It's good that you came to the realization.... it'll help you learn from your mistake and better yourself... Using people to fill voids we have in our life is not only selfish but incredibly hurtful.
I have just realised the only reason I was with my ex and yearned for him; was because I only wanted to be with him because I wanted attention and LOTS of it!!
You should not have gone for it in the first place. How heavy wud it be for him to continue..
I agree, its totally unfair for that other person, no one can tell how badly he can be hurt from all this. Think about yourself if you were at his place, would you even wish to be in his place.
there is something to be said for marrying someone that loves you rather than continuing your search for that ever-elusive prince charming that is supposed to sweep you off your feet with the “smoulder”…
the truly important part is how much do you think you can compromise?
You need to think of all the good qualities he has. Can you guys have a future together? Is he really someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? Just because someone likes you more is not a good enough reason to go back to them. You were never attracted to him in the first place. Are you attracted to him now?
