real scenario: So you

[salaam2k14]

Re: real scenario: So you

@shaasavera

It seems he could be asexual or gay. The fact that he outright refuses to admit it could be a sign. Maybe a sign of guilt that the marriage is a cover up. I don’t think most men would refuse to be romantic or have sexual activities with their wife. Even if raised in a conservative family after marriage they know what to do. No one would admit it either as it’s not something culturally or religiously that is admitted. I’d say 80% of gay desi men would marry women..some may be committed but a hidden double life cannot be rules out.

Also he says he doesn’t really like add which means he could be asexual. Does he like anything else romantic in nature? Maybe ask his friends or those who know him if they had doubts?

This is a man I knew, i’m not around him anymore. The years I was around him, I could never crack him or get inside of him to understand him. If this is the only type of male other than brothers and father, he will be what most men are like for you so you don’t question his behavior. Asking his desi friends if he’s gay is very very difficult. I don’t think anybody can attempt something like that. His mother suggested the honeymoon resort or any place he plans to go. Which is not a bad thing but it means that most attempts at having fun are basically his mother’s ideas.

The topic of sexuality is not to be discussed amongst desis. Other than whatever foreplay attempts by the wife don’t really lead up to sex as most straight people know it. If the wife was a virgin before marriage do you really think she would definitely for sure know that he is not gay or gay or bi or god knows. If he doesn’t say he has homosexual tendencies outright, how will a woman know for sure.

If she gets a divorce and he makes it so she isn’t a virgin anymore just so there isn’t any question about his sexuality, she’s stuck. No one would marry a divorcee that is not a virgin so she makes the marriage work thinking it’s something she’s done wrong from her side.