Hi peepz
do u know the feeling of feeling lonely when everyone around has gotten married and lives a totally different life and u seem to be the only one who lives without a partner.
the only question u r asked is"when r u getting married?" and ur only answer can be"when God will create a man who actually is a MAN!!"
when u feel u have so much to offer, but u r scared to get committed. when it all seems to unreal…
welcome to my world chick!!!
It sucks…your gonna love it !! 
nah, seriously i know how you feel. All my mates younger than me are getting married and its like “why, why. why???”
To tell you truth, iv never really thought about getting married as in seriously getting married, iv always known that their isnt anyone out there for me and my daddi tells me the same!!
The way i see it is that Allah has certain things planned for certain people, at one stage or another every person will experience these certain things, its just takes time.
The reason for the delay in any thing, not just marriage, is the simple fact that its not your time, your doing somthing better which will allow you to appriciate and understand your life as you know it so far.
Marriage is really important, it cannot be rushed, the more you think about something the further away it gets from you. Maybe you need to show Allah that your ready by accepting what he has given you now.
Thats what im doing anyway… 
You’l be ok chick…divent worry 
I know exactl what u r talking about!all the younger ones are getting married. In fact 3 of them just went to Pakistan last week to get married.
Its not the fact that everyone else is getting married. Its the fact that I really want to get married, to have a partner and have someone who I can share stuff with. maybe cuz I dont have that many friends. and my best friend has moved abroad and the other best friends has always had her ups and downs so I actually dont know how and when I can rely on her!!!
I’ve always felt different among other girls and have not been the average girl. I have Alhamdulillah accomplished what I aimed for in all areas of life but when it comes to marriage I am just not able to talk to a guy even to shaddi to door ki baat.
Once I was madly in love with this guy and we knew each other for some years and decided to get married. Then his mother found me to be not applicable as her daughter in law and found another girl for him and he moved on. And here I am. 4 years later. Still havent found a partner, but I have gained all my other goals.
Still its hurting me that I havent moved on. since he left me, I havent spoken to a single guy. I have just become so introvert and hard. If a guy speaks to me I am just so sarcastic and I start blushing which I just dont get. I dont know whats wrong with me.
I didnt really understand this:Maybe you need to show Allah that your ready by accepting what he has given you now. can u explain.
How do i explain this…erm..what i mean to say is that one of the reasons as to why your marriage is delayed maybe because Allah has not decided that you have accomplished all of your goals…he set your goals therefor only he knows when they are met. Be gratful for what you have in your life and do not pressure yourself into thinking about meeting the perfect guy. He’s probably stood in front of you and you can’t see. We almost always get what we want when we least expect it. Think of what you do have and not what you think you need. As those things as with everythingin life is never up to us.
I hope im making sense, im not very good at explaining myself via writtern words…im more of a talker than typer!!
I know everyone will be saying don’t worry about it, seriously try not to.
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Still its hurting me that I havent moved on. since he left me, I havent spoken to a single guy. I have just become so introvert and hard. If a guy speaks to me I am just so sarcastic and I start blushing which I just dont get. I dont know whats wrong with me.
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Maybe god wants to help you but you are not helping yourself.
It is hard to rebound but if you want to get married then you don't have any other choice but to open up a bit more and give other people a chance.
Sarcasm, reserved behaviour or blushing is not an inviting attitude.
You have to make every effort to move on. Chances are, he isn’t sitting there thinking of you so why waste your time on it when you know nothing is going to come of it? I’ve been in the same position and trust me, it just isn’t worth it to pine away over somebody who HAS moved on.
If you want to get married, you have to try and meet people and give them a chance. It won’t happen if you don’t try. 
Thanks guys:)
well I honestly dont know how to be more positive in my behaviour. have no idea how to be more nice to guys. if someone approaches me I become such a b*itch to him cuz I am afraid he'll just hurt me like the one I was in love with...
sigh
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Thanks guys:)
well I honestly dont know how to be more positive in my behaviour. have no idea how to be more nice to guys. if someone approaches me I become such a b*itch to him cuz I am afraid he'll just hurt me like the one I was in love with...
sigh
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you need to regain your confidence...if you think you'l get hurt again then you just may do...think positive woman!!
when approaching a guy or when a guy approachs you, try to think of at least one godd thing about them and work on that rather than the negatives...
if all else fails...imagine he's Brad Pitt :)
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Thanks guys:)
well I honestly dont know how to be more positive in my behaviour. have no idea how to be more nice to guys. if someone approaches me I become such a b*itch to him cuz I am afraid he'll just hurt me like the one I was in love with...
sigh
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Getting hurt isn't the end of the world. If anything, it'll give you a more clear picture of what you want and what you don't want in a partner .... and it'll help you gain confidence and become a stronger person cause you will survive through it.
hahahaha...Bard Pitt..yummmyyy
well to be honest I consider them all as mamas boys..and lately I met a wonderful person who really was amazing but it turned out that he is married and he didnt even flirt with me or anything. It was just me who got impressed.....ufff
hmmm...confidence...yeah...maybe....I am confused...
I know what u mean chick, i go for married men myself, but the only reasoning behind this is that i know they are safe and nothing can happen. Silly innit, just pray and don't focus on the issue too much...i think thats the difficult part, trying to block out something that is paramount to your life this moment in time. you just need to be strong and confident.
how old are you if you don't mind me asking?
I am 25...and dont make me sound desperado acha..hahahha:D
its just that I miss having some good times and the only good thing I can imagine is to have a lovely partner...yeah me silly I know...
Well...look on the bright side - you have time to pursue things that your married friends can't.
awww
Happiness doesnt just belong in the idea of having a partner.
My mother died a few years ago,i thought thats it, end of the world, im never going to experience love ever again, no one will look out for me…and etc etc. It took me so much from within myself to realise that being happy is not restricted to being loved by someone you can’t have anymore.
You need to move on from him, don’t make your good memories of him negative as they’l become just that, memories that produce sadness. Be happy for the time you spent with him and learn from what went wrong.
That question “when are you getting married” is like “how are you”.Im also tired of saying “never”, I just say “we’ll see” or “Im fine”.
Im the single aunty for my friends kids.Hey Im cool -or so the kids think.
And half the time Im out with the bacha party I just tell people they’re my kids.
Live ,enjoy life, worry not.All in good time you’ll be off to get married too.
You know, first thing first...
Give up the "when God will create a man who actually is a MAN!!" attitude because its not gonna get you anywhere.
All i see is women complaining nowadays about men not being all that, well lemme give you a headsup, there's more than enough good men in this world, longas you have realistic expectations.
Not every man has the good looks of bradpitt or the physical attributes or vin diesel. But if you want a man that will makeyou happy in life, then sister you really dont have to look too hard, just in the right places the right way.
she didnt say a man had to be goodlooking to be a man!!
stop trying to turn this into a male bashing thread, just becasue we havnt had one in a while, it seems as if some people thrive on them anyway.
the brad pitt thing was a joke, selective reading is not a good quality to have.
adjusted for all :)
I think it's Sarah posting as Maniac. :p
Maniac-- I agree with you.But I'll wait for the umm near perfect man.Kidding.
Missy-- I think maniac was making a general comment.Looks of Bradd pitt and such.Dont take it to heart darling.
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Missy-- .
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hey back off MQ. Only I call her 'Missy'.