Re-surfacing after some time

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Re: Re-surfacing after some time

@Ghost14

Tell her if you’re uncomfortable, and tell her exactly why you’re uncomfortable. No need to bad mouth the guy because that would make you look petty. Just tell her that they ended it abruptly and that you haven’t been in touch with them since. If you actually want to be friends with her then tell her that.

@nuclearreceptor

If you are going to find yourself interacting with her in social situations, you can reply to her message casually, one or two lines depending on what she wrote to you, you know like you would treat a sister from the mosque. Don’t feel pressurised to add her, though I would suggest you don’t tell her about what happened/how you feel about the entire proposal issue because come on this will pass on to their family and rumours spread like wildfire.

Tbh i have no desire to be friends with her. We met only because of the rishta context. And I can’t shake off the feeling that she knew about the shadiness because she was completely nonexistent for the past few months. So why the sudden need to want to be friendly now? I guess im confused because on the one hand I don’t want to be batameez (only because last thing I need is gossip about how rude I am ) and on te other hand I’m still hurt and disrespected about what happened so I feel like she should know it’s not ok to try to pawn off your shady cousin to some girl knowing about his past (we found out some stuff she had lied about regarding him).

Im slightly creeped out/worried because I had found out they had been keeping tabs on me for the past 2-3 yrs and I question why she’s back in the picture. And as humiliating it is to admit this (I know I deserve better), I had developed feelings for the guy and the situation left me pretty hurt and its annoying that his fam returns just as I had finally got over that. Not only that, she pretends like everything is fine and dandy and that all that didn’t happen.

blah I guess im just on a rant. Sorry.