..or by choice, whether it was a mistake whether it was a lifestyle that has since been abandoned. What matters now is the person now, not what someone did in their past, if that was so new converts would always be looked down upon. some people can handle it, some can not. The key is that a person who can not handle it is not brought into life then.
that being said, i was reading that with something like rape, marriages do end, and its less due to the physical aspect of it but psychological impact one one or both people in the relationship that damages it.