Rani huwi diwaani...

Lifestyle Relationships
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…aur susuraal waalon pay eenta pathar phainka aur maikay waalon pay ladoo, phool phainka.

This is a muhavra my mom always used to tell us (Mama’s gone on a trip aur unki yaad aarahi hay :frowning:

How true is it? Are people by nature hypocrites, applying a different set of standards on different relationships, just by virtue of the relationship? Do we treat our blood relations better than non-blood relations?

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Re: Rani huwi diwaani...

This happens when someone enters into relationship with close mind

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lol. @ muhawara

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Re: Rani huwi diwaani…

the muhaavra is cute :cb:

Well this is somewhat natural i guess. Everyone tends to feel for their blood relations more. But well, when you enter into further relationships, you should maintain the balance wisely. Wait, did I just rephrase hypocrisy? I think yes. :bummer:

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Re: Rani huwi diwaani...

Yes, Socrates, we treat people differently. :p

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Its natural to do so I guess...not just in susraal but in many other relationships as well.

I think you should enter every relationship (be it friend, colleague, etc) with an open mind but it doesn't really happen, does it?

Like for the most part, people think susraal walay are evil by default and all that.

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Re: Rani huwi diwaani...

I have never heard this muhawara before, although have seen this practically. Yes, people behave differently with different relations. Its because they don't accept the new susraali relations with open mind.

I have heard 2 instances of divorces just because the bride was asked to open her jehaiz saman (i.e. fridge) to be used in the susraal whereas she was aksed by her maika to not to let the in-laws use the jehaiz saman. I know the in-laws were not being reasonable to ask the DIL for her jehaiz ka saman, but is it really such a big reason to get divorce? Afterall, the brides were sharing fridge, tv etc with her previous family.

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do we treat our blood relations better than non-blood relations?
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yes. most folks have a soft corner for their own.

But I have seen some woman that are gems of their susraal.

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yes i agree but tali dono hath se bajti hai if in laws r nice n understanding i m sure girl will be equally nice :)

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Depends how much she keeps a distance with her ILs and throw flowers on her own family. In severe cases, the bride could end up back in the same *maikay. *Then she will have all her life to throw flowers at them :).

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Saying goes that we judge others by their actions, we judge ourselves by our intentions. Similar is the answer of you query.