With Ramadan just around the corner, ( it is reported the Sahab would start preparing for Ramadan 6 months before) it’s time to make some goals for this year’s Ramadan ( may allah allow us to reach it inshallah)
Namaz in Jamaat as much as possible.
Traweeh everyday inshallah.
At least one para of quran everyday.
Little/no TV.
Free time either reading quran or listening to lectures not wasting time browsing ( no offense paklinks..I will come inshallah but will try to stick to deen topics and away from arguments inshallah)
Say subhanallah WA be Hamdi 100 times everyday
Istigfar for everything I did and everything I am 100 x everyday.
Please allah allow me to do these things more importantly please allah accept them and keep my intentions only for you …
In addition to these aamals inshallah we should try refraining from all munkiraats(gunahs).
-Lowering of gaze
-Not listening to or doing gheebat
-trying not to be overwhelmed by the anger.
-Praying for the ummat
-Increase the quantity of darood shareef.
-Trying to follow as much sunnah as possible. Lets try to make our selves like the role model . our beloved prophet , imitating him in his appearence /ikhlaq/muamlaat/ibadaat.
-Learning and applying masnoon duas for every occasion.
-Practicising to spend some time in duas (15 minutes in one sitting dedicated to duas) -learning how to ask from ALLAh with yaqeen.
We’ve become conditioned to not minding our own business: we must be in the know about everything and everyone - whether local gossip news, work politics and/or family/friends’ activities. What’s the proof for that? Our obsession with facebook and Instagram and other social networking tools. By ‘we’ I mean generally those living the first world pop culture.
I find it very hard not to discuss the above-listed things and that is where gossiping and consequently backbiting as defined by Islam comes in. Very hard to mind our own business these days without feeling like we’re living under a rock.
For those who say they don’t gossip or indulge in two-facedness, tell us how you manage that and what your social life looks like. Very curious.
What i have learnt from scholars on how to cure this disease(yes it is a disease) is to
-impose some penalty (financial and in the form of offering nafl salat)on yourself for doing gheebat, make the amount of penalty higher untill you stop making gheebat.
-Communicate to the person that i unfortunately made your gheebat and i am sorry for that, that will put a dent on our nafs and inshallah will keep the nafs under control.
-Straight on refusal to some one who want to do gheebat is painfull at start but after that , you will feel much better and relieved.
Just keep the gunah of gheebat in mind and then inshallah it will easier to refrain from it.
Once you absolutely convict yourself to not deliberately backbite about others, it really isn’t that hard
Had a pretty decent social life before moving countries, and somehow a lot of people trusted me with their secrets/ issues… but Alhumdulillah i have never not once leaked that information from here to there. Even when someone posts VERY behooda pics of themselves on fb and make no effort to keep these pics private… I’d still never mention it to anyone voluntarily.
Also the fact that the person i backbite about TAKES my good deeds and I take their sins into my account is a pretty good incentive to keep the gossiping at bay.
Regarding backbiting, I try to stay away from women. Even in a country like Qatar which is full of opportunities of making social connections I have very few acquaintances. But alhamdulilah they’re decent and religious women.
I do talk to my sister on phone though…and sometimes we do end up talking about some family members…I want to be more careful in Ramadan.
Also, finish reading Quran that I started in Rajab in Makkah…and 100x salawat/durood shareef everyday inshaAllah.
this is such good training and discipline of the mind - training it to strictly discuss ideas and things and less ‘who’, etc. so yeah that’s my goal not just for a month of Ramadan but in general for self-improvement.
Well..insha’Allah my goal is to adopt good habits and pray as much as possible. And recite Quraan with meaning. And try my best to act upon it. Even it is only one ayah. Aameen.
I shared about death of my friends mother last year. Her husband & her sons all told me that she was not that religious doing extra nafl, but one of her traits was she never ever did gheebat of any one. She used to stop the person not to do gheebat of any one in front of her.
I’ll take the easy route and (inshaAllah) save the money that I would typically spend on snacks, refreshments, food during the day and donate it every Jum’ah.
, imitating him in his appearence /ikhlaq/muamlaat/ibadaat.
j/k