I didn’t know where else to put this… I haven’t been able to lose weight at all since I gave birth abt 3 months ago… where I live there is no househelp available, no dishwashers and no dryers.
I just feel that after taking care of the home, the khana pakana and the baby I am drained…and have no desire/will power to get myself to work out… My biggest pet peeve is a messy/unclean home and I can not focus on anything if the house is not almost perfect (it is never ever perfect)…hubby helping in the home is out of the question…he has to put in real late hours at the office and then helps out a lot with the baby… I also work part time… 2 days a week I am out of the house working, and I have to do some of the prep and after work at home too…
Can any of you help me… njgal mentioned MArtha Stewart doing things a certain way… can anyone share more into that …and also help me focus on myself… I feel blah and have been very withdrawn and feeling low… fyi… I am exclusively breastfeeding / pumping…
automne don’t be so hard on your self. I gave birth 11 months back and I still have not been able to loose weight. Since I am a single parent my schedule is pretty tough too. I work 10 hours daily. So what now I have started doing is that every night I take pram put my daughter in it and go out for walk. This way my daughter also have a great time and I get to walk for like 30 mins and I plan to increase this time. Its more convenient for me because by the time I come back home she falls asleep. But your baby is only 3 months now soo relax. A 3 month old baby is not easy to take care of it’s a tough job because mostly babies by this time do not have a schedule , they cry during night , colic etc. These first few months of baby are tough and you need to relax because you are the one who is going to handle the baby.
You can start working on your weight after your baby turn 6 months old. Abhi itni tension nahi lo
Dont be so hard on yourself in terms of the weight. Eat healthy as much as you can. If you are breastfeeding, that might help too. 3month olds arent easy to take care of. Give yourself some more time.
IN terms of housework, i am a member of flylady.net. They send out routines to follow each day and if you actually follow them you can keep on top of the housework. I dont do all the tasks everyday but i try and when i do, i can see it makes a lot of difference.
thanks ladies....really appreciate ur kind words...but it is hard not to let the weight get to you....Ira I'm gonna try the link u talked about ...thanks
I agree with others, don't be so hard on yourself and don't stress with housework and even with your looks too much. I started concentrating on these things after my youngest became 2 years old and I was finished with breastfeeding. Just eat healthy and go for nice nature walks on weekends with family and enjoy. Perhaps slowly you can start with keeping a diary of your daily doings and targets, shopping plans etc.
First thing, for organization, I did was to keep a diary and it really helped me, I used to write down my weekly and daily plans for the next day before going to bed, I used to write down the list of things that I need in a week or a month's time, and a separate diary for grocery shopping.
Start a low calorie diet. even if you dont have time to work out, you can atleast start limiting your calorie intake. Just google for "1500 calorie meal plans" or lower if you wana lose more weight. there is plenty of websites that will give you meal plans with low calories for free
I have not yet been blessed with a child, but considering it took nine months for the baby to grow inside you, it's going to take a bit longer than three months for your body to bounce back.
Plus, I bet you've already made a little bit of progress, right? I'm sure you've lost at least a few pounds/inches since you gave birth. So pat yourself on the back for all you've achieved instead of fretting over how much farther you have to go.
Maybe a schedule will help. Like hareem said, write everything down and set up a plan for when you have to do certain chores. And try not to beat yourself up if everything isn't perfect...because raising children naturally involves a little chaos. So if everything is clean, but the bedroom is a bit cluttered, that's ok. Grit your teeth, ignore the clutter and get out of the house with your baby for a good, brisk walk. By forgetting about the clutter, you'll be achieving three things: quality time with your baby, exercise, and a chance to de-stress.
And don't miss extra opportunities to fit in some exercise. Take the stairs instead of elevators, park a little farther away from the store or post office so you'll have to walk, maybe get down on your hands and knees every once in a while to mop the floor. A little bit really does go a long way.
