Yeah we have been crazy enough for calling our kid brother to attend college in nyc. He’s 18 yrs old and I haven’t met him in 5 yrs but masha Allah say he’s genius so me n bhai got him admission @ rutgers. Now when I think about it, it seems worrisome bringing a teenage kid in nyc. My elder brother is ok with that, he says that the youngest is going to be ok as we were raised very well by parents so I shouldn’t be worried much.
But being the eldest sister I just wanna lay sum rules for him like early curfews and our involvement in his course selection and home work assignments and all that. I definitely would want to know his friends and company. I hv dealt with teenage siblings before but @ that time I was in saudia and pakistan so it had been easier.
Should I just speak to him directly and tell him that his stay will be conditional on his behavior? or is it going to be to harsh? Kids now a days are very mature and logical.
Being the youngest this kid has been the most spoiled also which worries me more. Is their “raising teenagers for dummies” guide?? 
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Actually there is 
Amazon.com: Parenting Teens for Dummies (9780764555046): Sandra Hardin Gookin, Dan Gookin: Books
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isnt rutgers in NJ, rather than nyc?
just tell him to not get into bar fights with princeton elites, and all is well. homework assignments? bwaahaha. he is 18. not 6!
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first off, he's not a kid... he's 18 which means he's an adult. he might be the baby of the family but no one in the real world is going to look at him that way or expect him to behave like a child. you need to stop thinking of him like that too. expect him to act like an adult and he might just step up to it.
and if you say he's sensible and logical, then you should let him have some space and figure things out for himself. that's what college is for! sometimes you do stupid things, hopefully you learn from them and you don't do them again. you figure out who you are and what you want to do with your life. let him settle into his routine and then see how it goes from there on.
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You won't really be doing any raising since the guy is an adult already.
Let him do what he has to. Don't baby him, he is 18!
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a kid with a head on his shoulder need not worry about weird things teenagers do. as per your post, it seems he is raised to be a good kid by your parents...don't worry...he'll be fine! iA :)